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THE CHI KUNG BIBLE: MASTERING PERSONAL POWER by Gary J. Clyman CHAPTER #4 - CONCERNING PEOPLE THE SUBJECTS HIGHLIGHTED IN PERSONAL POWER TRAINING LEARNING TO ROAR BODY LANGUAGES SELF-DEFEATING ATTITUDES RETRACING/RELEASING DEVELOP A WARRIOR SPIRIT CINDERELLA/CINDERFELLA ILLUSIONS RELEASING ABUSE IMPROVING COMMUNICATION SKILLS SUCCESS & PROSPERITY TRAINING WHY BE LAST IN LINE DON'T ROCK THE BOAT PARENTAL DE-PROGRAMMING VICTIM/SAVIOR ROLES SEQUENCE PATTERNS SELF-ESTEEM DEVELOPMENT DEVELOPING PERSONAL SPACE ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY TRAITS ASSUMING THE SALE RELEASING PHYSICAL VIOLENCE POLITE/IMPOLITE TRAINING MONEY'S NOT DIRTY TRAINING BE NICE TO YOURSELF I COME FIRST, NOT LAST GUILT/DENIAL COMPLEX PERSONAL POWER TRAINING SUBJECT DEFINITIONS Section I: The technique. Energy cultivation exercises that propel you to cultivate, accumulate, rejuvenate, and circulate your newly developed internal power. No previous experience is needed to perfect this system. 80% mind training and 20 % physical. Section II: Determine and harness your vehicle using the following subjects. PERSONAL POWER TRAINING creates clarity and strength to obtain your desired results. Listed below are the topics covered in PERSONAL POWER TRAINING LEARNING TO ROAR - Talk with physicality, talk so people respond. BODY LANGUAGE - Connecting body movements to what you are saying. Correct- ing your problems of uneasiness, fear, frustration, and anxiety through your physical and vocal movements. Like; laughing on certain words, covering your mouth with your hand, looking away instead of communicating directly. RETRACTING/RELEASING - Get to the core of your beliefs, are they still valid? Re-experience the original incident and let it go. DEVELOP A WARRIOR SPIRIT - The tenacity to go beyond your natural limits, and retain your ability to evaluate if the direction is productive. CINDERELLA/CINDERFELLA ILLUSIONS - Eliminating the fallacy of waiting for the right man or women. Compromise in your relationships, appreciate what you have, or find something better, but know what you want. RELEASING ABUSE - Physical, Sexual, and/or Emotional abuse. The abuse of being ignored, repeating the pattern of picking the people that cause the abuse. Why? Lack of discipline, develop it, and change. Don't allow people to abuse you, and they won't. IMPROVING SALES PRESENTATIONS - The ability to read people and present in their language, not yours! Pre-program through your languaging so prospects will respond immediately. SUCCESS AND PROSPERITY TRAINING - Look at your world from a prosperity attitude through personalized affirmations that will be of your own creation. WHY BE LAST IN LINE - You will answer the questions, "what's more important me or my environment, and why do I always let other people get ahead of me?" Claim your rightful place! DON'T ROCK THE BOAT - Conquer the fear of speaking up, and the consequence that will follow. PARENTAL DE-PROGRAMMING - Look at the rules you live with, and recognize where they came from? Go back to their origin and re-create new rules that fit your life today. Disempower the people that make your life miserable. VICTIM / SAVIOR ROLES - You pick your position then find someone to play opposite. So you're always saving someone or being saved. You always pick the same kind of person to feed your neurosis. You will stop doing this immediately. SEQUENCE PATTERNS - Look at the insanity of how you think things have to be done. If you're not getting results, why aren't you? Are you making life too complicated? See the simple in the complex. SELF-ESTEEM DEVELOPMENT - Low energy and low self-esteem are a reflection of each other. Discover why you don't have self-esteem and how to get it. DEVELOPING PERSONAL SPACE - Develop a buffer zone between you and your environment. The key is to develop internal consistency on a daily basis. This is tied into developing the ability to 'be alone' instead of 'being lonely'. Prevent invasion of your personal space. ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY TRAITS - Realize your compulsions, then make the choice whether it's good or bad for you. Make better choices! ASSUMING THE SALE - Program Success. See the mental picture of the success before the physical act is accomplished. The mind does it first then the physical follows. RELEASING PHYSICAL VIOLENCE - Release the stored physical violence from your body, and experience the change in your being when it's gone. POLITE / IMPOLITE TRAINING - Why suffer with a smile on your face? Recognize it, feel it, show it. Make it be real. WIPE THAT SMILE ON YOUR FACE - Putting a false smile when you are miserable. What was the original reason, and why do you continue to wear it when it is not true? MONEY'S NOT DIRTY TRAINING - Are you paid what you're worth? Probably not. Learn how to effectively ask and get what you want. You're worth it. BE NICE TO YOURSELF - Why punish, beat, and torture yourself. Break your patterns. Enjoy the small accomplishments and you'll be better able to produce results on a larger scale. I COME FIRST, NOT LAST - Visualize the outcome of any event, before it happens. See if it feels good or bad. If it feels bad don't do it, if it feels good, proceed. GUILT / DENIAL COMPLEX - Depending on your background, you have certain characteristics. Feeling guilt about things you've done or haven't done? Quit re-thinking old choices. Live in the now. Avoid the could have, should have, would have syndrome. Haven't you denied enough? PERSONAL POWER TRAINING is the answer. RESULTS OF PERSONAL POWER TRAINING ARE OBTAINED IN THE BEGINNING AS WELL AS AT THE END. MISCELLANEOUS CASE HISTORIES Due to the diversity and differences with each person that I work with I have included many perspectives from many different kinds of people. These perspectives reflect some major portions of the population in the way people think, what they do for a living, and other attitudes. Some will apply to you directly, more directly than others. Some won't apply at all and some will be like it's yourself reading something that you wrote. A CASE HISTORY BY GAYE LINCH We were delighted with the "hopes" of a second child, but when I first became pregnant, I knew from the very beginning that this pregnancy was "in trouble." It just didn't feel right. I was very ill, not like "morning sickness" but the kind of sick I had experienced with a miscarriage years ago. We tried everything possible to give it a chance, which included the better part of 4 months in bed and several hospital trips. Then at 4 months their was "no fetal heartbeat," but I didn't spontaneously miscarry. So I went under a general anesthetic for a D&C and what was to have been "a couple of hours" turned into a frightening overnight experience. In spite of all the disappointment, illness, and fright, I came home knowing full well that I had been lucky and that things could have been a lot worse. A friend had just lost a pregnancy that was several months further along and another friend had just lost a full term baby several days after birth. I felt that what I needed to do was to be as supportive of them as possible and simply get back with the program. What I didn't expect was how tired I felt all the time and the apathy I was experiencing. Gary Clyman was doing a workshop in town with Dr. Whitley as a participant. A mutual friend had to literally drive me to the workshop amid much protest because I simply didn't feel up to dealing with any of it. Gary helped me understand and accept the denial and depression I was experiencing and then he and Dr. Whitley worked with me to balance the hormonal changes my body was going through. There was "Shock" as they began working and then I don't exactly remember the details about what followed. When they finished, I must have gone to sleep because I remember waking and experiencing "incredible physical sensitivity." We were several floors above ground level and I actually experienced pain when the building shook, as traffic came and went with the signals. I could not hear the traffic but I could feel it. At that time, I was taken home because I was so physically sensitive I could not handle being there. By the next day, some of the "acute sensitivity" had passed and what I was experiencing was a feeling of "incredible well-being and happiness." When I went into the workshop, we talked about the hormonal changes involved in pregnancy and the physical confusion my body had been experiencing because I had not actually miscarried and on top of that was the anesthetic, disappointment, and stress. What Gary and Dr. Whitley had done by balancing my hormones was to help me physically complete the birthing cycle and in so doing, to released both the physical and emotional imbalances that I had been trying to cope with. I know that my entire outlook on life then changed. I felt wonderful, full of energy, at peace, and incredibly thankful for the support that I had been given! A few months later we "tried again." I conceived easily, had a good pregnancy, and we now have a "wonderful little lady" who has joined our family. Gaye Linch, Portland, OR A CASE HISTORY BY DOUG CARTER After spending 8 years as an instructor in a well known public speaking company, I have heard over 60,000 talks. Many of these talks have been extremely emotional, and cathartic experiences for the participants. As the instructor, it is my responsibility to the class members to always be in enough "control" to respond to the class member in a very positive, supportive manner, and I was good at it. As time passed, I got to be an "expert" at controlling my emotions. I developed an "impassive facial mask" to hide my own emotions so I could always be in control when it came time to make a comment to an emotional class member. I was used to being the leader; the person who could objectively set the tone for meeting and seize control in an emergency. Still, I was pretty unhappy because "I felt like I was missing something." When I first walked into the room for the Personal Power Training Workshop, Gary and I looked at one another and I realized that we would work together extremely well. I didn't realize how well until much later. As with every seminar it started with "who are you? what do you do? and, why are you here?" Naturally, "leader" that I was, I volunteered to go first. In my best "objective" style, I stated my name and my position in my current company. As I began to talk about why I was here, I heard this voice, Gary's voice, saying, "Stop, Stop, Stop, Stop... Stop!" I turned to him, he turned to the class and asked, "How many of you, has this guy already lost?" To my surprise, every hand went up! My most immediate thought Iwas, "treachery! All these people have teamed up just to set me up!" I now realize that was "a typical reaction" I had to a lot of things. I'll never forget Gary's comment, "Look at you! The only thing moving on your face is your lips!" I had become an "emotional robot!" And so, we began the process of breaking down some of those barriers. In the first exercise I really struggled. I struggled because besides freezing up my face, I'd managed to freeze up my hands, arms, feet, legs, head, neck, back, chest, lungs and anything else I could. Most importantly, I'd frozen up my heart. My heart and my freedom. As I began to free up different body parts and stretch them out, I began to free up my emotions and my feelings. You know something? It feels good to let go of all that garbage. Less than 6 hours later, I looked at myself in the mirror and could barely recognize myself. People like me hang onto things that won't hurt us and it's like having the tail of the tiger. What I now know is that "people can never be free from something if they won't let it go." Gary Clyman's Personal Power Training will help set you free. Doug Carter, San Diego, A CASE HISTORY BY JOHN MELUSO, JR. I would like to tell the readers what Gary Clyman's PERSONAL POWER TRAINING has done for me. I've been involved in personal and spiritual growth work for many years. I have always believed that I was potentially capable to go beyond my present limitations. The fact that humans only use about l0% of their conscious mind always had me wondering, "what would happen if I could use 20%." What if I could align my "greater purpose" and create my life the way I wanted it to be? Being a "spiritual" person and having a background in religion, I wondered "how could I apply the Divine power and allow this power to work through me?" I have done many types of "growth experience seminars." In my opinion, Gary Clyman's PERSONAL POWER TRAINING is "the essence" of life. Gary Clyman's PERSONAL POWER TRAINING gives you the most important parts of the Chinese Internal Art of Chi Kung. To me this is equivalent to "walking." If you had never "walked" before, how could I tell you about the concept of "walking" and the benefits, fun, and enjoyment? How would I explain the "transition" from crawling to walking? If I could consciously discuss this "transition" with you, how could I tell you of that value? What dollar amount could I put on it? What kind of potential could I put on "walking?" That's the "essence" and value that I have experienced from Gary Clyman's PERSONAL POWER TRAINING. I've observed many people in my life. Many people are very good at "internalizing" energy. These people build up, build up and build up until they "explode." I have observed other people that are very skillful at "circulating" energy throughout their body. They are basically very sensitive and aware of their bodies, efficiently using the energy when it moves throughout their body. There's another set of people that go, go, go until they collapse. They are very good at "externalizing" energy. Very rarely do I find people that can combine consciously all 3 of these talents in an effective way, in their lives. The 3 talents in review are 1) to "internalize" energy, 2) to "circulate" energy throughout their body in a positive way and 3) to "externalize" that energy in a conscious manner. "The Clyman System" allows me to consciously "internalize" energy effectively, to consciously "circulate" that energy through my body in a positive way and finally, to consciously "externalize" the energy in a positive manner in creating results in my life. I would say there was a time when I was not completely desiring success in my life. I'd felt there were times when I didn't feel I was worthy and I was guilty of some transgressions and maybe God didn't even like me so to say and I realized that that's when I was not practicing. I did not feel I was "worthy or valuable" enough to have what I wanted in my life. Once I chose to reach my goals and decided that I was a valuable person, my daily Chi Kung practice became very easy to discipline and it assisted me in my quest a hundredfold and I am sure it will continue to do so. Now my goal is to use my 20 minute daily practice for the rest of my life and possibly to even expand to more than 20 minutes. I know the value and it continues to serve in getting results in my life. Gary Clyman's PERSONAL POWER TRAINING has changed my life and it can yours also. John Meluso Jr.Ä A CASE HISTORY BY MARGARET DOERSCH The Chi Kung practices that Gary has taught me has changed my life. Before taking Gary's workshop, I had been struggling with depression and a near nervous breakdown. Many everyday events seemed to easily "get through" to me as if I had a lot of "holes" in my protective cover. I was easily devastated. Chi Kung has strengthened what I call my "boundaries" y making me more solid. His system seems so simple, yet is so deeply powerful. With minimum daily practices of 15 minutes, I can achieve major increases of energy. Since I took my first PERSONAL POWER TRAINING WORKSHOP with Gary 2 years ago, I've also noticed a gradual overall shift in my "presence" in the world. My appearance, self-confidence and communication have all positively changed; as if there is more of me. People notice me and pay attention, and I "care less" if they do. I am about to attend my third workshop with Gary. I find that subsequent workshops update, fine tune, and accelerate my process of "Chi Development." Thank you Gary. Margaret Doersch, Portland, OR PERSONAL POWER TRAINING - PERSONALITY PROFILE II List 3 things you the most. 1)________________________________ 2)________________________________ 3)________________________________ List 3 things you the most. 1)________________________________ 2)________________________________ 3)________________________________ List 3 things that would exist if you could push a button and make them happen. 1)_____________________________________________ 2)_____________________________________________ 3)_____________________________________________ List the most important events in your life - Good and Bad. 1)_____________________________________________ 2)_____________________________________________ 3)_____________________________________________ 4)_____________________________________________ 5)_____________________________________________ 6)_____________________________________________ 7)_____________________________________________ 8)_____________________________________________ 9)_____________________________________________ How do you feel about money?__________________________ How much money do you per month?__________ How much money is "a lot of money" to you?__________ On a scale of 1-10, internationally, how do you rank in what you do, (10 being the highest)__________, Why?____________________________ __________________________________________________________________ copyright 1987 Gary J. Clyman HANDS ON, TRANSFER OF POWER - EXCHANGE OF TRAITS PAST / CURRENT NEW / REVISED GOALS:______________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ SUPPORTIVE AFFIRMATIONS:____________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ MISCELLANEOUS:______________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ copyright 1988 Gary J. Clyman PERSONALITY PROFILE III - BELIEF SYSTEMS & FEELINGS I am: lonely unworthy isolated unattractive rejected inferior abandoned unlovable angry incapable sadness powerless ignored incompetent resentment unproductive bitterness undeserving discounted victim desperation trapped inadequate !punished by GOD hopelessness alone failure burden depressed $I am generic self-rightiousness bad useless ,must be the best in everything overwhelmed vulnerable burden I have no identity helpless GOD doesn't love me terror separated from GOD rage unwanted panic ridiculous doomed I have no soul fear I am my mind forgotten perfectionist confusion life is a struggle grief money is dirty mediocre I am worthless compulsive I am persecuted unforgiven I am fragile misunderstood I am unappreciated unhealthy NEGATIVE WORDS PAYOFFS panic no commitment fear panic guilt security unworthy no responsibility abandonment permission rejection control !struggle don't have to love separation avoid suffering failure detachment confusion no rejection control get to be right grief no decisions #impatient/impatience no choices "exhaustion don't have to try struggling sympathy sadness martyr sorrow freedom past physical pain denial superiority &hopelessness don't have to listen helplessness manipulation despair attention lack of just getting by scared identity self-pity not vulnerable depression don't grow up victim compulsive *resentment get to act crazy/reckless persecution not face things "bitterness get taken care of trauma safety terror judgment #anguish denial of: aloneness I am generic emotions arrogance fear selfish self-esteem "self-destructive confidence This is a new presentation of old material. I am not the founder of this material, only the presentor of this traditional material in a new, easy to use and understand style. Many people have benefited from the use of "The 5 Element Theory" over the last few thousand years. This is at the heart of acupuncture, The Macrobiotic Diet, and runs deep in traditional Chinese medicine. Many of us already recognize a connection between our emotions and our bodies. What many of us have not experienced is the direct connection with past emotional experiences and our present health status. The term "dis-ease" denotes a state of uneasiness or lack of abundant health. In Chinese medicine, a person can be afflicted with an illness with many origins. MORE CONCERNING YOUR EMOTIONS Part of applying Chi Kung as an emotional cleanser or a method of flushing out old emotional things whether related to injuries, incidents, traumas, or feelings, your emotional states could change very quickly. EMOTIONAL VISUALIZATIONS WHILE SITTING When you sit and practice The Micro Cosmic Orbit many of these emotional surges flush out on their own. When I was a student many, many times I would laugh and cry, laugh and cry, and fall off my cushion and laugh and cry. I had all kinds of insane picture and visualizations come up while I was sitting. These pictures were part of the cleansing process of letting ll these things out. This is normal and can happen when you begin to still your mind. If this happens to any of my readers, it is important to not become alarmed or scared, but rather to allow these pictures to come out on their own. I call this "Retracing and Releasing." "Retracing and Releasing" is part of becoming objective and empty. Anytime you practice these techniques you can use them for anything. The applications are totally unlimited. There is no specific application that is restricted to a certain thing. If you want to use The Micro Cosmic Orbit for burning the old experiences out of yourself, go right ahead. My favorite technique for burning out these old experiences is Heaven and Earth Meditation. You can give up more and more. As soon as you realize that you are not giving up enough, you can give up more. This is not in a religious sense, this is more in an emotional or psychic realm. FAMILY APPLICATIONS I have discovered and seen many times in my clients and students, that when my male clients are starting to progress and change the traits that they don't like and that really don't work for them, many times as these changes are going on something happens inside of their wives. It appears as their wives become upset because they can not control their husbands any more as before, or their afraid because they don't know where their relationships and marriages are going to go. Many times in the beginning, my client's wives encourage their husbands to work with me, then suddenly when these men begin to show changes for the better, (i.e. independence, the ability to make decisions, recognizing how other people control them) their wives want their husbands to stop practicing Chi Kung or stop meeting with me. Somehow, they try to prevent their husbands from becoming who they want to be. They are threatened by their husband's new traits and added independence. Something that I say to my clients quite frequently is, "when you start to change for the better, the people that say they love and support you, and care about you the most, are the ones that will try to hold you back." I have seen this over and over again with many of my clients. Many of my clients relationships and marriages have been reproduced from the kind of relationships their parents had (insensitive husbands and fathers, domineering wives and mothers, second and third generation child and emotional abuse, etc.) FRESH BLOOD IN OLD RELATIONSHIPS Marriage to some people, both men and women, represents prison or lack of freedom. However by utilizing the principles from Personal Power Training, you can convert a "dead marriage" that has no sensitivity, inspiration, sharing, or communication into a "new marriage," without actually choosing a new partner or breaking your old relationships. Now you will break old relationships in one sense of the word because you will not tolerate your "bad marriage" the way it had been, whether it's 10, 20, 30, or 40 years of it. In other areas of my book I've mentioned, "you don't fit Chi Kung into your life, you fit your life into Chi Kung." This is one reference to that. Many times the spouses of my clients have trouble fitting into the life of my clients. This is because they've been in a stagnant relationship anywhere from 10-50 years. What happens is after one of my clients changes and goes through the necessary transformations, their spouse has trouble associating. This is very common. Lately, the spouses of my clients have been coming to me to become my clients also. They want to take a more active role in creating these new marriages that are born from the old ones. Changing one partner in a relationship is a major part. The secondary part is then helping the second person in the same relationship attain what they want from their life. When two people are attaining what they want from their lives, this usually improves their marriage. There always is a chance, when you improve your life, you won't want your partner with you because of some deficiencies or inadequacies that will then show up. The cloud or the haziness related to not knowing what to do or who you are has been lifted. After this haze has been lifted, you will clearly see who you are in relation- ship to your marriage or relationship. That's why there is so much trouble from your spouse. They want to hold you the way you were. So figure, if your wife or your husband has been in a position of dominance for many years and you all of a sudden declare your independence without breaking the relationship, there will have to be alterations in the relationship. So one of the techniques or applications of Personal Power Training is to be able to negotiate and get what you want. These negotiation skills are applied to business, relationships, etc. This has been true with my own relationship with my fiancée. She has gone through five or six different "levels of transformation" so far, either because of getting worked on by Dr. Gary Whitley 2 or 3 times or getting worked on by me, 2 or 3 times. The material that my fiancée is living with or the emotional incidents that have shown up have been primarily erased. In most cases they do not resurface. This is true for many of my clients, almost all. So, as each level of emotional distress has been removed, you are left a different person each time. EMOTIONALLY DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES ARE VERY COMMON Coming from an emotional dysfunctional family and growing up in the 50's and the 60's is not as rare as some people might believe. The symptoms are too numerous to go into in this book, but those who have experienced an emotional dysfunctional family will understand exactly what I'm talking about. Emotional dysfunction in families is extremely widespread. This shows up as many forms of child abuse, ranging from being ignored to being raped by your father. This problem ties in with alcohol and drug abuse, but is not restricted to these avenues. Only lately, say over the last 10 years or so, has the psychology community concentrated on this once unspoken and unrecognized problem. KEEP DRINKING & KEEP MISSING THE BOAT As long as a person is drinking alcohol or taking drugs, they can never tell exactly what their problems really are. They can always blame their misfortunes and recognition problems on their indulgences. When a person that practices Chi Kung abstains from drugs and alcohol, only then can they discover and realize what the causes of the problems are. Alcohol and drugs can and do quite often mask a personality trait such as laziness, anger, depression, etc. Only by quitting can you begin to see clearly what the reasons for your life's manifestations are. WHY DID WE DO DRUGS? A great deal of people my age have taken drugs that grew up in the late 1960's. A more important question is "why did they do drugs?" not if they did. The answer to this question is quite diverse, however in my opinion, there are certain specific similarities in many of these reasons. From my perspective, people do drugs to create a physical identification with their bodies to develop a relationship. So if someone is taking drugs and they are having good or at least some physical sensations, many times these sensations are identified as physical presence, where as by using Chi Kung, you can establish a better relationship with your body without any of the harmful side effects. Chi Kung is "The Perfect Positive Addiction." IDENTIFYING WITH PLEASURE INSTEAD OF PAIN Most people associate having a body or identifying with their bodies usually under painful circumstances (i.e. a speck in your eye, back pain, or sore feet). By practicing Chi Kung, each person can develop a new relationship with your own body. It's as if pain gives you a physical focus and without pain, your awareness declines. Chi Kung can and will give you a "pleasurable body identification." JUST SAY "NO" TO DRUGS, BUT "YES" TO CHI KUNG Many people ask me the question, "How come I don't feel good when they don't practice and I feel so good when they practice?" The answer to that is very simple. The reason they feel good when they practice is because they practice. The reason they don't feel good is because not feeling good is a natural state and the only reason they don't feel good is they now have something to compare it to. That's why you should practice on a regular basis. It takes work to feel good. It's natural to feel as good as you can when you practice Chi Kung. Chi Kung is very addictive, but so is feeling good, so you have to choose your addictions carefully and this "The Perfect Positive Addition." CHI KUNG IS "THE PERFECT POSITIVE ADDICTION" The sense of wholeness that can be cultivated through the practice of Chi Kung can be the perfect antidote to a life of pain and suffering related to this problem. The application of these techniques can create a feeling of aliveness for you. Since so many people nowadays have addictive personalities, Chi Kung can fulfill your needs and become the perfect positive addiction. The feelings derived from your Chi Kung practice can be stimulated in many people in less than 30 seconds. There are no harmful side effects that are always associated with taking recreational drugs. Practicing Chi Kung will immediately give you the power over your own mind to change your mood to a more positive one. If I had to compare Chi Kung to any drug, it would probably be morphine, without the harmful side effects. CHOOSING BASIC PERSONAL RULES There comes a time in your life (with luck, very early), when you make a decision that you want to be who you want to be instead of just sort of floating around, or wanting... It's almost like, the difference between wanting to be somebody is the exact opposite of not wanting to be like somebody. Most people that I have seen don't concentrate on what they want to be, who they want to be, or what traits they want, but they would rather avoid what they don't want to be. Does that make sense to you? In the book I said, "There's a difference between being celibate and running away from sex, and being celibate and running towards something else." Well, in developing your personality, which can happen at any time, or even a couple of times, you have to pick traits that you want to live with and the rules you want to live by. I've mentioned before, "Personal Rules." Some people don't have any. Well here we've got instead of "Personal Rules" as the topic, we're talking about Personal Traits, characteristics and just ways of being. This is a very common problem. I can only give it to you in how it happened to me. When I was about 21 or 22, I didn't have any positive traits. I was just a fat slob that was drinking alcohol all the time and just liked running away from everything. I didn't want to go to college, I didn't want to be a doctor, I didn't want to be a dentist, I didn't want to go in the army, I didn't want to do anything. So what did I have? A lot of nothing. And what I didn't have was everything I didn't want. And I wasn't anybody because I was avoiding being anybody, and living in denial, like an alcoholic. It's kind of complicated. So when I was 22, I had a friend who was Black and a musician/athlete in my band. He was not a real good musician, but he was an excellent athlete. I asked him. He had no structure in his life at all. He had many girlfriends, he had kids all over the place, but I asked him "what do I have to do?," because he was an expert athlete. He said just, "Pick 3 things you care about and don't worry about the rest." For lack of another approach, I made my basic choices. What I picked was sex, martial arts, and making a living. I didn't care how I made money (at the time I was in the optical business) and I didn't care how I had sex, but I did care about my martial arts and my martial arts is what pulled me out of the gutter that everybody else was in and helped me specialize and become a "specialty person." Client: How do you become a specialty person? GJC: This question often comes up. Client: O.K., I'll pick one. GJC: Name a specialty. Let's first start by eliminating what you don't want. Client: Because I have no idea? GJC: Yes. You can't live your life by eliminating but to come up with the end result, we should eliminate the obvious. So, what don't you want? You can just start with anything and as long as it's not wrong, and as it gets better and as you get more clear, then you tailor it. Make a list of things you don't want to do and things you might want to do. A saying I use for this is, "it's easier to steer a car that's rolling than it is to steer a car that's standing still." MORE ABOUT BELIEF SYSTEMS Working within your own belief systems in relationship to the practice of Chi Kung at taught in PERSONAL POWER TRAINING is a very, very important part of all this. If you believe a certain way and you are living outside of those beliefs or in conflict with those beliefs, the symptoms of this show up in many ways. Unhappiness, obesity, depression, feeling like something's wrong all the time, and others are some very common examples. So, what you are facing is a daily challenge to do and be the best you possibly can, the way you want to be. Life throws a lot of targets in front of us we have an opportunity to either "shoot" or let them fly by. The more targets you "shoot" and hit, the more this supports your purpose in ideal life. If you hit enough of these targets (the number is not important), this effects your confidence levels in a big way. RECOGNIZING YOUR CAGE Most people are trapped and have no idea that they are or that the trap exists. The condition of most people is being "in trouble and miserable" and not knowing it. This sounds grim to say the least, however, if this condition can be realized, it can be used to propel you forward, up and out of your trap, to freedom. EXPANDING YOUR CAGE When animals are born and raised in a zoo, they lose much of their instincts. These "domesticated" animals even though they still have the "genetic link" to their blood line, don't express and utilize their traits as though they were in their natural environments. Imagine a lion being raised with a flock of sheep, would the lion think he was a lion or a sheep? People can have the same tendencies. If a child is raised in an "abusive environment," how can this child know the difference? Only by going outside of your present environment, can you understand your human possibilities. Using Chi Kung can and will help you push beyond your comfort zones in many areas. Most people that work with me, discover how limited their "closed environment" really is, but by doing Chi Kung on a fairly regular basis, these natural limits can be expanded and eventually removed. Animals and people that are raised in closed environments. They don't have any other perspective than the one they have been exposed to. Unfortunately, this "limited exposure" leads to the reproduction of many environmental and generation-passed dysfunctions. The major categories of these "inherited traits" show up in the areas of child abuse, drug abuse, alcoholism, emotional abuse, and physical violence. WHAT GETS IN YOUR WAY? In doing this work we call getting ENERGY FOR LIFE, people will create any excuse to prohibit themselves from having life the way they want it. Excuses show up as health problems, not feeling well or even more serious diagnosable problems. They show up as having circumstances in your environment crop up to prohibit you from having life the way you want it. These excuses are used most frequently by people who have addictive personalities or substance abuse histories. PERSONAL APPLICATIONS FOR STABILIZATION Chi Kung as taught in PERSONAL POWER TRAINING can be used to stabilize each practitioner on a daily basis. When you hit lows, regardless of the type, practicing Chi Kung enables you to pull yourself out of your slump. It induces objectivity and hope into your daily life so you can see that this won't last for long. SPONTANEITY WITHIN REASON A certain amount of spontaneity is important but to be totally spontaneous is to have no control of your life and have a lot of trouble being const- ructive and productive. Structure can be one of the most important ingredients in life. THE ENERGY CRISIS OF THE 1990 "Our country is suffering from a National Energy Crisis. Practicing Chi Kung can solve your Personal Energy Crisis." GJC Many people have conversations with me during their initial consultation concerning what I call "The Commodity of Energy" or ENERGY FOR LIFE. Many of my clients have many of the worldly things that seem to make many people happy. However, after careful investigation into their lives, personalities, spirituality, and all these other aspects, it turns out that having these worldly things does not actually bring them happiness. Now, I'm not saying that they must give up worldly things to attain happiness. I think that's a bunch of hogwash. "Having" is a lot more fun than "not having." "Having" is a lot easier on your system than "not having" and "having" is definitely better than "not having." If you are wealthy and have a lot of worldly goods but you don't have "wealth of self" or this commodity I call ENERGY FOR LIFE, what's the point? So, I teach you how to develop "The Commodity of Energy... ENERGY FOR LIFE." This is independent of your financial status and other important material things in your world. ENERGY STABILITY POSSIBLE One of the things you'll want to do as you begin to practice Chi Kung is to try to stabilize yourself which means to keep your energy levels above a certain point. In order to do this, you must do your daily practice in the morning and all day long continue to practice, a little bit here and a little bit there, to stay stable. Depending on your maturity in Chi Kung and the amount of years you are able to do this, you will derive many benefits in the long run for the rest of your life. CHI KUNG HEALING: THE WHOLE PIE If there was such a thing as a Chi Kung doctor, I would have been one a long time ago, but there is no recognition for this particular ability, just the need. Many people I have met have a need for someone to either correct their personal meditation or teach them a better way so they can practice unencumbered, on their own. Nowadays people go around saying they are healers. Many new healing systems have surfaced in the last 10-15 years. Chi Kung is the best because of it's direct use of accumulated personalized energy. From my perspective, many of these other healing systems are only fractions of what Chi Kung is and has to offer. If these other practitioners would learn Chi Kung, first it would help them perform their healing duties better and more efficiently and they would immediately see what is missing in their own system. The use of energy in Chi Kung is like no other system. "The storage factor" is what makes Chi Kung better than all the rest. You must heal yourself before you can heal anybody else, and that's exactly what you will do. This is the unique and distinctive difference. THE 6 LEVELS OF HEALING The first and highest is level #1, Chi Healing, then comes level #2, Acupuncture, Chiropractic, and other modalities, then comes level #3, Nutrition, then comes level #4, Herbs, then comes level #5, Drugs and last but not least comes level #6, The Knife. Look at how our modern civilization has it stacked! THE INVISIBLE GAP - THE BODY/MIND SEPARATION This work, Chi Kung as I teach it in PERSONAL POWER TRAINING is bridging the gap between body and mind which is an artificial gap in the first place. Our Western culture, over the last 300 years teaches us that the body is separate from the mind. This separation or gap is responsible for many modern day psychological problems. These 2 parts of our being are actually united and you do not have to treat them as separate entities. The merging of these 2 parts, the body and the mind, will reduce your fragmentation and pain which manifests on both the physical and mental plains. This principle, "the merging" not only has been absent from our western culture, but has been magnified as much as possible. If you look at religion, psychology, medicine, exercise, diet and nutrition, inter- personal relationships, or any other subjects, you can see the results of this separation. Just look at the treatment of modern chronic degenerative diseases and you will see evidence of the fragmentation. THE PROBLEMS WITH "ASTRAL PROJECTING" Many years ago I had an "out of body experience" that was the beginning of my journey on the path. I had been astral projecting since I can remember as a child. I used to astral project and get stuck in the walls on the way back in. I remember soaring or flying in my dreams. Many people do, this is very common phenomenon. The pictures in these "trips" were usually very vivid. When I would try to "return home," I would quite often get caught in the wall of my house on my way back in. My mother would wake me up for school and I never wanted to wake up. I always wanted to wait for my spirit to get back into my body, most of the time, it never did get back in and I would go to school only "half there," like a zombie. I believe most people live their lives this way, being "half here." This body does matter and this time around is all you really have. STRANGER THINGS HAVE HAPPENED Auto writings and auto paintings have apparently been happening to many people over the years. Some of them have been misunderstood and thought to be "crazy." I'm sure there have been artists throughout history that have experienced strange phenomenon like this. It also happens through me, but it doesn't come out in paintings, writing, or music. It comes out in advise I give my clients. And when this advise is given to individuals, it can help change their lives. You really can't help or change the world until you have your's together, but you can change your life, in an unbelievably short period of time. I help people peel off their "onion skin," the various layers that prevent them from operating at their fullest. Some people might call this Karma. I do remove other people's Karma. DUMPING YOUR KARMA... HOW? The unique thing about this process is "I don't take on their Karma because they do it and I don't, they eliminate their own Karma, not me doing it for them. This does not relate to the Hands On, Transfer of Power, but you have to do your own homework long before (when I say long I mean a few weeks) I actually do the Hands On, Transfer of Power process. But if the advise is followed to a great extent and the Hands On, Transfer of Power is performed, you will be different. This can induce spiritual growth or more specifically, "spiritual switching or transformation." MORE ABOUT KARMA Most people are very concerned about Karma who are on some sort of spiritual path or development. They think they have to "burn off their Karma," they think they're a prisoner of their Karma... etc. If someone would merely practice Chi Kung and develop the internal energy they can cultivate from their practice, they can actually dissolve their Karma instead of being a prisoner of it. When I do a Hands On, Transfer of Power on some of my students/clients, what I'm actually doing is dissolving their Karma related to that specific "original incident." YOUR RESULTS EQUAL YOUR WILL This even showed up when my dog died in March of 1986. She had been with me since the year after I graduated High School and within 9 days, I had found another dog exactly like her with the same body, but slightly larger and the old dog's spirit moved into my new dog's body, because she was only a puppy. Basically, this dog has been with me over 20 years. And now, she's only 3 years old in 1988. So, I'll have this dog with me for another 15-20 years and the decision to replace her will be made at that time, again. By then, I'll have children, because I am getting married on June 4th, 1989. I'll make a decision whether I'll want another dog for another 20 years at that point. (BTW, I asked for a divorse on 6/4/90) The point is "you can really have what you want, even if there is no logical basis for getting it." That's what we're talking about when I explain "The 3 Ingredients of Change" in a few different places in this book. These are very important principles. YOU CAN GET WHAT YOU WANT "You can have what ever you want, if you really want it bad enough." If you don't know what you want, and most people don't, you won't get it. There's no mystery why people are unhappy. There's no mystery why they never seem to have things work out "the right way." It's obvious. If you don't know what you want, why should you have what you want? The important part in "Creating Your World" is called Shen, that's Spirit. I've said this before, first comes Shen, then comes Chi which is the energy of the mind or the steps in the process of creation, then comes Jing which is the physical, cultivated sexual energy, the actual movement toward you want, the actual physical manifestation. First Shen, then Chi, then Jing. You can have your world the way you want it, when you want it bad enough. FOUND BAREFOOT IN THE SNOW, AGAIN I've been talking in my sleep since I can remember. Probably this sleep talking and I believe before that it was sleep walking on a grosser level, where I used to find myself outside in the middle of the night, dressed in my Karate uniform, in the middle of winter, in my bare feet, walking around outside in the snow. This used to happen to me on a regular basis. I had roommates that used to go out and look for me in the middle of the night. They heard me leaving or something, I don't really know, it was pretty unclear at the time about what was really happening. I was not aware at the time as to what I was doing, but I believe this talking in my sleep can be considered auto-talking, which was my ability developing its way to the conscious realm of usable tools. Now, with all my work in my past, I am able to auto talk to my clients. This again is one of the things that is so unique about working with me. You being a substantial person, not some "airy-fairy," can get the bene- fit of having advise come from another source. The source is me, and it vehicles through me. MORE ABOUT THE INVISIBLE GAP Unless you have some sort of technical system that enables you to make sure you are in their body, you probably are not. It is not a natural phenomenon for you to be "in your body." The way society has pulled everything apart, religion is in one place, the mind is somewhere else, the body is somewhere else, exercise is something separate, sex is isolated, and you are lucky if "love" and "sex" are in the same person. Everything about humans is "pulled apart." That's the nature of what's going on with humanity now a days, "separation." Why is it so surprising and curious to find out "nobody has their shit together." Reflecting on this, when kids are daydreaming in school, they could be anywhere. But now that they are not kids anymore and they are in their 30's, 40's, 50's, they still have the same problem. Nobody talked about "astral projecting" when I was 6 or 7 years old. How many kids were taken to psychologists and psychiatrists to find out what was wrong? How many kids where labeled "slow learners," "learning disabled" or diagnosed as having "concentration problems" when in reality they are not present. Some of these "labels" have stayed with us as adults. I have seen exceptionally smart people with these "old labels," and have seen these "old labels" deeply effect confidence levels in adults. So one thing led to another and in 1977, I had a conversation with one of my Tai Chi seniors concerning "astral projection." I told him about my willingness to "astral project" and he advised me to "stop it immediately" and showed me how pointless it was to try to connect body mind and spirit while consciously "sabotaging my convergence." So back to my original "astral projection" decision. My question was do I want to live or do I want to die? I did not want to kill myself because it was too sloppy, but I didn't see anything wrong with just laying there and "leaving my body" for the last time. I could have died and no one would have found me for at least a day or two. But I made the decision to continue to live. I popped up and landed 6 or 7 feet away from where I was lying on the ground. I don't remember how I got up. I just popped up and the next day I was determined to do something, so I ran 8 miles. I was sick for two weeks after I had run that far because I hadn't run for many years. I knew I had to get in better physical shape because I was an "obese pig." I was as bad as anybody I have ever met. This experience led to me beginning my martial art path shortly thereafter. AN INTELLECTUAL'S VIEW OF THE BODY In having a conversation with a "pure intellectual" with practically no aspects in "the physical," he described his relationship with his body as "owning or renting a house, and rarely, if ever having a necessity to go to the basement." He actually said, "why should I go in the basement?" as if there was no reason to even dwell in the body. I told him, that if he worked with me, 2 months from now, he would absolutely understand what he has been missing all these years. ARROGANCE VS. SELF-CONFIDENCE Arrogance and self-confidence are both in the eyes of the beholder. I believe that if someone is self-confident, they can be interpreted as being arrogant, without actually being that way. It's sort of like walking on the sidewalk and scaring pigeons, I guess it's O.K. When I was coming up as a Tai Chi student, I was having trouble with many other students. They were always crying and complaining about how I was acting and my Tai Chi practice. They were jealous because I was more serious then them and was practicing all day long. It showed. I asked my Tai Chi master what he thought the problem was, he asked me this question, "when you are driving cross country and you run over a small rock, do you get out of your car and check if the rock is alright?" This question saved me a lot of unnecessary worrying about pleasing other people. Just please yourself, that will be hard enough. THE EGO VS. SELF-CONFIDENCE Concerning the defense mechanism of the ego to defend itself: I rarely get any clients that come to me with the traditional Zen attitude of the use- lessness or the fruitlessness of the ego (fruitlessness can be changed to a different word). What this means is, the ego takes an "all important control" of the personality, thus not allowing the person to change specific and important characteristics because of the relationship the ego has with these characteristics. This rarely comes up, but every once in a while, I run across somebody who comes in and thinks the ego is bad. This is usually a person with very low self-confidence levels who believes, and has been told for many years that he has "an ego problem." By careful analysis of what the ego really has to do with the whole person, many times the ego can be retained, if there is in fact an ego. This is related to a self-confidence/arrogance vs. ego relationship. A good ego is an important and necessary attribute to have in this world. However, when the ego is just an image of self and not truly self-confidence, this is a serious problem. As I said before, very few of my clients actually have ego problems, but every once in a while I run across one. SELF-RESPECT BEGINS WITH SELF Having self-respect is not the same as thinking and acting like "your shit don't stink." This second attitude does have negative connotations, but true self-respect can be one of your most valuable assets. If you don't respect yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? This is a disturbing question to many people, especially since our society has put so much emphasis on "helping others" and "doing for others." Without an "inward focus," there can be no "true and permanent" self-improvement. I am not talking about "a bandaid or quick fix," I mean "real change." I believe our society has created so much "outward focus" that the "return home" has become almost impossible. Chi Kung, the way I teach it, will heal this wound. Self-respect is something that everybody needs but very few people have. If you have self-respect, that is respect yourself, then the world will show you and treat you the way you deserve. Many people lack this valuable ingredient to happiness. All the seminars, therapy, and self- improvement work will not give you self-respect. However, by practicing Chi Kung you can obtain this important, missing personal trait. If you treat yourself like you are "worthless and undeserving," how can you expect anybody else to treat you better? When your level of self-respect increases, the changes are very subtle and nearly hidden. You will notice that many people tend to regard you in higher view. This will be confusing when lit first starts to show up, but it will show up, and it won't take very long. Sometimes within hours of beginning Chi Kung with me. That is because when you do Condensing Breathing and begin to become the center of your Universe, your Universe begins to respect you automatically. Many people are shocked when they first see people they were previously nervous around or even afraid of, treat them differently. Self-respect will show up in your relationships at work, your marriage and relationships with friends, and most import- antly, in how you treat yourself. I guarantee it. In the way you treat yourself applies also to making money and your attitudes about prosperity. A common result of working with me is that your life becomes a better and happier place to be. This is primarily because of the "inward focus" derived from the practice of "Condensing Breathing." Carefully examine my logo. This exemplifies this "inward focus." Self-respect is directly related to what I mentioned earlier as "commanding respect vs. demanding respect." MORE CONCERNING SELF-ESTEEM Some people carry an automatic smile on their face at all times. This silly, retarded fake fixed smile shows up on people more than you would imagine. In fact, if you have one on your face, you might not even be aware of it being there. I have found this fake smile on people that have severe self-esteem problems, whether men or women. I have tracked this to childhood as an alternative to appearing severely depressed. Recognizing its presence, then finding a Chiropractor who knows what to do for this is the easiest remedy after releasing the emotional blocks associated with this symptom. This fake or fixed smile is related to covering up your misery. Sometimes this smile is a sign of emotional unconsciousness. These strange facial expressions are related to wanting to look good, or responsive. TAKE OFF THAT "HAPPY FACE" This portion is concerning a very strange condition that many people carry in their face. It's called an "Unconscious Fixed Smile." The origins are many but usually stem from childhood. Many children were expected to appear happy when they were not. Over the years of "faking happiness," some people have learned how to fake a happy face, at their own expense. This is a very serious problem in the long run. This "Unconscious Fixed Smile" keeps many of its owners from achieving all they can and from being all they can be. Some of it owners do not even realize they are not happy at all. They have fooled everyone including themselves. They forgot they were "faking it" since it has become second nature over the years. VISUALIZATIONS RELATING TO SELF-ESTEEM The way we speak and see ourselves makes all the difference in what kind of results we get. Here's where your Shen fits in. Self-esteem is the end result of our life-time punishment. Our level of self-esteem is a reflection of how much punishment we accept and claim ownership to. The way I lift a person's self-esteem to a higher level is through the practice of "forgiveness." Self-confidence and self-esteem go hand in hand. Self confidence is our ability to express outwardly; self-esteem reflects how we treat ourselves, inwardly. Yes, you can have high self- confidence with low self-esteem and high self-esteem with low self- confidence. YOUR "FILTER" VS. YOUR "RULE" Your "filter" is the composite of belief systems that has been dumped on you and accepted from many sources usually beginning as an infant, to create "the way you look at things in the world." Your "rule" is something you took directly from somebody else and you incorporated into your person so that no matter what you do or you're about to do, your "rule" limits you. Your "rule" is something you got directly from somebody else where as your "filter" is your own creation. I determine a persons "rule" or "filter" both in groups and also privately. These "rules" and "filters" run your life. Another commonly used "filter" is "If I'm not aware, I don't have to be responsible." Many "smokers" and "drinkers" live with this "filter." This is related to "the comfort of confusion" which I have explained elsewhere in my book. If you are aware, then you have many decisions and options and possibil- ities. So this is related to something I call "The Comfort of Confusion." This is not an intellectual problem. It's an act. Keeping in mind that your "rule" or "filter" runs your life, this is responsible for many long term ongoing problems that many people have. Some of these problems are: eating disorders, gambling, adultery, and many other common compulsions including sex and drugs. Many people have combinations of these compulsions. It's like your trying to fill the "black hole," a void that can never be filled. This "black hole" is responsible in many people for the appearance of "working on the problem." How sneaky and sophisticated a person is will determine the contents and appearance of there "rule" or "filter." Some of these aspects of your "rule" or "filter" can be defined very clearly, while others remain very obscure and hidden. Different aspects of your "rule" or "filter" fall outside of your range of communication and your range of control. With some of these aspects there is nothing you can do. HOW DO YOU SEE THE WORLD? One of my favorite portions of PERSONAL POWER TRAINING is helping people to define what I call their "rule" or "filter." The "rule" is directly dumped on us by other people. This means we accept their belief system. Our "filter," however, is a combination of our experiences and conclusions we have drawn from them. Look into your own life and see where your basic belief systems stem from. Examples: "I am fragile and could lose everything at any time" (this is for a man or woman). This is a common "rule." The origin of this "rule" in this particular case history was given to a boy by his mother over 30 years ago. This man is vision-impaired and was treated as a wimp throughout childhood. Another common rule/filter for women is: "I am not pretty enough, I am enough, I am not enough, I am not enough, I am not enough, I do not deserve enough." Get the point? This is very common (underlined). This belief system causes more pain and difficulty to women than any other I have found. The reciprocal for this is the use of specific personalized affirmations--of course, after careful investigation is taken place. The cause of this is so obvious it is simple. ABANDONMENT IS WIDE SPREAD The "abandonment issue" is reflected in many of my clients, depending on the age of the "original incident" related to your abandonment issue. This reflects your level of "hopelessness and helplessness." Part of the way of getting out of the effect of your "rule" or "filter" is by receiving a clear explanation of how it effects you. These explanations do not usually come from within you and must come from an external source. The decision to go back to the most painful experience of your life is a serious, scary as hell decision, especially because you don't know what your going to find when you take a look. WOMEN AND SELF-CONFIDENCE Many women have been raised in this day and age to believe that they are supposed to be the support person--the secondary person, and the man is primary. This doesn't even work in marriage let alone in other aspects of life. This rule/filter is almost as prevalent with women as "I am not enough." This is a belief system that many women carry which leads to great unhappiness, lowered self-esteem and self-worth, and can lead to non-specific depression. It doesn't matter what you do; what matters is how much guts/internal fuel you have. It is the same issue for men and women. Whether it looks like talking and not being listened to, being in a relationship and not having your feelings matter, being abused by the people we love and supposedly love us, or being "shit on" on the job. The problem is not theirs; it is ours. It is our discipline problem that we accept things that are not acceptable. This issue I call "commanding respect vs. demanding respect." True leaders and other people that have sufficient levels of self-esteem and discipline are respected without asking, automatically you might say whereas, people with low self-esteem do not command or take respons- ibility for the kinds of communication given to them. This is a serious problem. Question: Are you telling me that I have something to do with the way people treat me? Answer: You only get what you accept. If you are satisfied with people treating you like "dog meat," people will pick up on it and give you what you ask for. All the screaming in the world isn't going to change that, but if you have an internal conversation with yourself and decide that you are only willing to accept communication above a certain level and not lower, those same people will give you what you ask for. DECISIONS AND SELF-CONFIDENCE One of the important things with having self-confidence is also having the balls to stand behind the decisions you make and to know that the decisions were based on all the available information you could possibly have had at the time. People have trouble because they don't want to make decisions and always feel they don't have enough information to make an accurate one. Your ability to make decisions reflects your self-confidence levels. It has nothing to do with the actual decisions. WOMEN AND FOLLOW THROUGH Many women that I have interviewed have proven not to have what it takes to do this work. I don't mean that they're not smart enough, but they have this "undeserving issue" to the point of destruction. That's how they disqualify themselves. They create all kinds of reasons. They have all kinds of answers why they can't do this now, and these are usually fat women. They first say, "this is exactly what I'm looking for." "I really want to do this," or "I'm going to do this." The next thing you know, they're calling up to postpone their interview appointments. The next step is they start postponing their starting date and then the last step is because they don't know how to make decisions yes or no, is to postpone, to stop and just out and out cancel doing it at all. So what that essentially means is they're just trapped. They stay where they are and there's nothing I can do about it. If someone is not willing to work with me then I can't help them. It's as simple as that. This "undeserving issue" that women have gets in their way so they cannot change. This is why most of my clients are men. PROBLEMS WOMEN HAVE MORE THAN MEN II believe women have more other problems that are even more serious than Dthe lack of the sense of urgency. This relies on self-esteem, self- Ldiscipline, and self-confidence. That's why what I call what I do "Success and Prosperity Training." PERSONAL PRESENTATION & SELF-IMAGE Personal presentation is very important. This world judges us by how we look, unfortunately. If we don't care about our appearance, nobody else will either. We get treated the way we appear, and the way we accept being treated. The simple action of "tightening your belt" will do wonders for your self-image. I interview many people as clients who are walking around with their pants falling down. What kind of physical presence and awareness can this create when you're having trouble keeping your pants up? All it takes is making your belt a little tighter. This does give you some sensitivity in the lower part of your body, primarily around your waist, not your groin, and this adds to your self-esteem and self- confidence. This is important. If you're walking around sloppy with your pants falling down, please pay attention and fix this. TEACH 100 DOCTORS, HELP 10,000 PEOPLE Teaching Chi Kung in PERSONAL POWER TRAINING was an important decision for me because I was planning to become a Chiropractor. I made a decision a few years ago to give up a Chiropractic study and career, which I hadn't completed yet, to bring Chi Kung to the masses. My decision to teach Chi Kung instead is based on my belief that if I teach 100 Chiropractors how to use Chi Kung in their practice, I will help many more people than I possibly could by myself. So that decision was made when I withdrew from college to do this exclusively. My decision was right. Helping people by teaching them Chi Kung has proven to be more valuable to my students because they keep their benefits forever. There are many other people who who can help people by using Chiropractic. ABOUT CONCENTRATION Many people are under the misconception that they can concentrate for short periods of time. A short period of time might be considered from l5 minutes to an hour. The truth is most people have never concentrated in their entire lives. Concentration is the ability to "be present" on command. There exists a methodical way of realizing and developing these concentration skills. "True Concentration" resembles a clock with each minute representing an interval. A process of developing concentration that I teach my clients is to concentrate for 10 seconds and then distinctly not concentrate for l0 seconds. Realizing and developing the ability to turn it off and on gives you a handle on internal control. After this practice has been developed to a small extent, the next step is extending your concentration abilities for two intervals followed by a one interval rest period. This method works. Practicing this technique I call "The Anatomy of Concentration," will give you, the practitioner, the necessary sensitivity to concentrate at will and to be able to distinguish the difference. Many people suffer from not being able to concentrate but few realize the problem even exists. People only operate at 20-30% of their capacity at the most. Obviously there are other factors involved: enjoying what you do, doing the right thing, and many other variables. I am talking about dealing with the ability to concentrate, which is directly related to choosing what you decide to concentrate on. This is concentration at your peak. Many people spend most of their waking hours trying to not be where they are because they don't like what they are doing. Concentration, however, is the opposite. That means you are spending your time becoming physically present and aware, being where you are. RELIGIOUS CONDITIONING AND DEPROGRAMMING For all practical purposes this material will be divided into three basic categories: l. Protestant Influences 2. Catholic Influences 3. Jewish Influences PROTESTANT INFLUENCES: The first thing we will talk about is the "Protestant Influences" and it doesn't mean you have to be Protestant to have this; you can be Catholic, you can even be Jewish. What you really are won't make that much difference; it might shade or flavor the problem but it doesn't change the category of it. Protestant conditioning -- the basic rule to recognize this is -- "if it is easy, it is wrong." This has many other implications relating to money, work, and being natural. Having fun and being happy are also effected. "The Protestant Work Ethic" and applications of it are the most prevalent problems related to this particular branch. Many of my clients come to me feeling guilty unless they have suffered enough to deserve something. There is no real cure to this -- just what I call "reframing." Part of reframing is to recognize whether this particular trait is a member of a category of traits or is personal like a possession, a personal trait. When I help my clients and students deal with this particular problem, it is done on an individual basis. However, after the problem has been "Reframed" or dealt with, many of my clients recognize it as a common problem. Prior to working with it and dissolving it, it looked totally isolated, individual and unrelated to anybody else's issues. This is very common. CATHOLIC INFLUENCES: Christianity has given us many beliefs. For example: "it is easier for the poor man to pass through the eye of a needle than it is for a rich man to get into Heaven." This single quote has caused more problems in relation to prosperity than I have seen anywhere else. This quote has affected people and successfully motivated them to sabotage their own personal success. Another common belief related to this, is "if you make a dollar, you had to take it from someone else." This also runs deep in preventing people from accepting their God- given riches. "Catholic Denial," and many variations of it, prevent many people from action -- positive action. "Catholic Denial" shows up in many of my clients as an underlying belief that they don't deserve it, so they don't get it and they are unhappy because they don't get it, yet they sabotage themselves in advance. So one of my goals in working with my clients is to show them and dissolve these negative belief systems. JEWISH INFLUENCES: Dissatisfaction is very current; so many of my clients are dissatisf- ied Lwith life. Dissatisfied doesn't mean they are poor or broken, dissatisfied means they know they are not performing to their full potential, whether they are commodity traders, Chiropractors, attorneys, people managers, executives, artists, musicians; they are not doing what they are supposed to do, so they are not happy. JEWISH GUILT AND CATHOLIC DENIAL Jewish people have a trait that is rarely found outside of Jews. Fortunately, this trait does not prevent them from getting something accomplished, and achieving their goals; however, the punishment associated with achieving their goals which appears as "Jewish Guilt" is sometimes a serious drawback. "Jewish Guilt" is quite different than "Catholic Denial." The joke "the Jews created guilt, the Italians perfected it," is quite accurate. Most Jews do not suffer the same malady as their Catholic/Protestant counterparts. The remedy to all negative belief systems in my work is what I call "Illogical Logic" or "The Task-Reward Ratio." "The Task-Reward Ratio" helps many of my clients come to grips with many recurring responses. These responses can look like feeling bad about something good, feeling good about something bad, or feeling more justified to fail than to succeed. These tasks are so simple, they are guaranteed to be successful. By picking the correct task and tying it into the reward, success is assured. The reward can be being happy, feeling successful, losing weight, not being depressed, making money, and/or having fun. The ratio between the task and the reward is tremendous. Remember, we are purposely picking a task or homework assignment that is guaranteed to succeed. At the completion of this task or homework assignment, the client deserves the associated benefit. Ridiculous as this may seem, it produces great results. I will now give some examples: One of my clients is wealthy and was chronically unhappy. Upon invest- igation of his unhappiness, we, he and I, found that he had no reason to be unhappy so I had him pick a task that, upon completion, would allow him to feel he deserved and earned happiness. The task in this particular case was to drink a cup of decaffinated coffee -- one cup, one time. His happiness lasted for months. Example 2: I had a psychiatrist as a client one time who was chronically l0 minutes late everywhere he went. So, for being l0 minutes late everywhere he went, he felt bad for hours (guilt). So on my first confrontation with him, my homework assignment was to leave l5 minutes earlier than he ordinarily would to be anywhere. In the process of leaving l5 minutes early, he was arriving 5 minutes early. Everybody he worked with wanted to know what was wrong. He didn't answer them. A week later at our 2nd consultation, he felt "Great," but still was unhappy. He felt residual guilt because he had been that way for so many years that the change was hard for him to get used to. So his homework assignment, (the task) was to feel O.K. about not being late any more. He chose to do two push ups. Upon the completion of his two push ups, he was truly better. GARY'S EVALUATION OF EVELYN'S STORY: Evelyn's story is classical, classical abandonment. The original cause was due to her parents being killed in a car accident when she was only 4 years old. She was raised by her relatives and all the rest of the children in the family. She was forced to share what she had with every- body else because she had more. This original cause set her up for a lifetime of unhappiness. EVELYN'S STORY: I initially started PERSONAL POWER TRAINING because I was not accomp- lishing my goals, my relationships were failing consistently and some- thing kept getting in the way. It was a fear that if I got involved that person would leave, so I created relationships that would fail over and over again and I didn't know how to stop it from happening. As I got involved with working with Gary, I started to realize the pattern I had established and how it was effecting my body. Through doing Chi Kung practice and the body work, it helped eliminate the fears I have with encountering new relationships. I am more objective and I won't die if the person leaves me. I feel I can go on with my life now. It still effects other areas of my life. My friendships with other women were not satisfying. I was able to let go of some of the ones that were not good for me. I used to just hang on to them. What it looked like is a terrible fear of being alone, abandoned and even though I tell myself I enjoy being alone, I was so miserable and every time I got around people I always felt I had to do something to keep this person in my life to make them accept me. To make them want me and I had to be more than just Evelyn--I had to be something else to keep that person there in my life and was not letting that person be who they are, but treating them like a possession, an object and what they could do for me and so far as fulfilling my needs. I felt other people had to make up for what was taken away from me as a child. Other people had to make me feel loved because I lost my parents at 4 years old. I didn't know how much of an impact had on me until I saw a pattern in my social life. I could not get past the fear of somebody leaving me or me not being enough for them to stay in a relationship with me or not being enough to do a good job, establish a new business. Also feeling like I had to fill myself up with food, alcohol, smoking to feel I had something I could control that wouldn't leave me be alone. I tended to indulge in things. I would go on drinking binges at times. It's changed to the extent that my awareness has increased and my ability to say no to my cravings and urges to compensate has gotten better in that I feel that I can be myself. I don't have to fulfill another's needs so they will have me as a friend, lover or employee. I can be me with what I have to give and feel more confident in that. It looks like I am loving myself more and putting myself before in the sense that I am not looking to please other people so much. I am looking to please Evelyn. I want Evelyn to be taken care of. I don't want Evelyn to be hurt again and my awareness is considering me now when before I wasn't. I was only looking how the other people were reacting to me. I would say about 60% is gone now. How much of your improvement is personal advice vs. the practice? I would say 50/50. CONTRIBUTIONS BY DOUG CARTER MORE ABOUT ABANDONMENT One of the biggest problems that I think people run into is they get caught up trying to do what's right. They get caught up trying to do what they think they're supposed to do rather than what they really want to do and even though what they think what they're supposed to do is not necessarily the right thing or the best thing for the other people that are involved either and it's certainly not right for them. In fact, I was driving down the road the other day and one of the things that came up for me was values and where values come from. I know that everybody's got a set of negative and positive values. You can rank them in order of what's most important, what's second most important, etc. I found out that the values that we hold dear are the things that we were "accused" of violating when we were younger. So for me, my biggest value is "integrity." Doing what's right. My second biggest value (well, it was, it's not anymore) is honesty and then trust. And the reason, I found out, you know the things that drive me crazy, is when people don't do what's right, or when people aren't honest, and you can't trust people. You can't find anybody you can trust. That kind of stuff. And yet, in reality what was going on for me is that I was afraid that I wouldn't do what was right, be honest, or that I wasn't trustworthy. Where did all that garbage come from? The things I was accused of by my parents, specifically my father. And God! I mean some of that garbage has been with me for years. Now it's coming up and I say "well gee, if that's where my values came from, they came not from a positive perspective but a negative one. Maybe the time has come for me and I don't know how to do this yet, but maybe the time has come for me and a whole bunch of other people to take a look at ourselves and say, "O.K., what is really right? Who are we really and what is really important to us?" Not because somebody else told us who we were "supposed to be" but because it really is important to us. GJC: So, you've never really created who you are supposed to be? DC: No, I've always been living by other people's expectations or what I thought other people's expectations were... GJC: And not really what they really were either! DC: No, it was an interpretation. GJC: Right! DC: And it was an interpretation of events that occurred when they were emotional. I mean, it wasn't even something accurate for them because they weren't always emotional. It's like this one time when I was about 12 years old, my dad got real upset with me and just yelled and screamed and said... I don't even know what he said but this is the "original incident" that came up the last time that Gary and I did "Hands on, Transfer of Power." GJC: With the shooting incident? DC: Pardon? GJC: With the shooting? DC: No, no, this had to do with cleaning the back yard. And, uh... he'd asked me to clean the back yard two or three times and you know, I was only a 12 or 13 year old kid, so I kind of half-heatedly put the thing together. I didn't want to be out there, it was cold! And so on Saturday, my father comes along and says, "I thought I told you to clean the back yard?" I said, "well, I... I did," and he said, "Bullllllshit!" And so he went out and grabbed the rake and started to clean the back yard. So I go out to help him and I'll never forget this. He looked at me and said, "what are you doing out here?" I said, "well, I'm helping you clean the back yard." He said, "I don't need you." He said, "you had your chance. If I want it done, I'll do it." He said... "Get outta here!" And so I did. I went back on the porch, and the porch is covered with plastic so the wind wouldn't blow through and I remember standing there, looking at him through the plastic and it was all blurry and such. I started to cry. My whole life, all I ever wanted to do is be a part of my dad's life. And that was the last time... right there... and we never really got along from that point on. Until just recently and the reason was because in a moment of acute stress, I mean he had so much stress in his life, from a moment of stress for him, he reacted to me - not because of who I was, but because of the things going on in his own life, you know - his own garbage, but I didn't know that. And so I have "owned" that as being my problem, what I thought his expectations were and they weren't. Does that make sense? GJC: Yeah! Connie B. Kroft was my typist: (CBK) Oh yeah! GJC: So, can I put that in the book? DC: Sure, it will probably help other people with this issue. GJC: Can you resolve it? DC: Well yeah. What I did already was I called him and I told him, I said, "I've had some stuff come up for me and you know I've always been real logical, and I've had some stuff come up for me and it's emotional and I'd like to talk to you about it." And he said, "yeah. What was it?" And I told him about it, about feeling like I was "abandoned," feeling like I had never been good enough. GJC: So this is directly related to the issue of "abandonment" with you. DC: Oh yeah, yeah it is. And it all started in March, when you were here ast. GJC: So the Hands On, Transfer of Power last time actually brought this one out. DC: No actually it came out in between, but the Hands On, Transfer of Power resolved it. GJC: O.K. DC: The last time. The Hands On, Transfer of Power in March, when you were out here is what brought it up. GJC: O.K. DC: And in the meantime, when I started to resolve the process and when I was with you the last time, one of the reasons was because logically, I had already dealt with it. GJC: But you didn't get it out of your body yet. DC: I didn't get it out. I couldn't let go of it. GJC: Did you get it out last time I did the Hands On, Transfer of Power? DC: Must have, because in order for me to talk about it and not have a big emotional reaction to it... GJC: Great. DC: About as gone as you're gonna get. GJC: Can I put this in the abandonment section? DC: Sure. GJC: O.K., because I have a place for it. DC: Sure put it in there. Anyway I talked to my father and you know what happened? I told him, "you know I had all this stuff come up for me and I said logically I know that that's not true. You know, logically I've got it all handled, but you know emotionally it's a mess." And he said, "you know, I was always afraid of that." Now we never talked about that specific incident, but we talked about that specific time period and we talked 45-50 minutes - something like that. GJC: Well he was afraid he screwed you up as a kid. DC: Yeah! GJC: And he was right. DC: Well he was right. GJC: He did. DC: And you know what's real interesting is that our relationship has been so much better since then. Since our discussion about it. GJC: That's really exciting. DC: It's been incredible. You know, I told him, "you know, next to my daughter, you're the most important person in my life. You always have been." And what's sad is that we hardly talked from the time I was about 1 until I was about 21. GJC: Well, fathers don't have much to say to kids until they're about 21 anyway. DC: Yeah, well I left home. GJC: Well congratulations. DC: Hey, such is life. Thank you. Not thank you for saying congrat- ulations, but thank you for your help and support. GJC: You're not done yet... DC: Yeah I figure that one of the things that is gonna happen is that between you and I, we're gonna plow into the ground here. GJC: We'll do what? DC: We're gonna plow it into the ground. I mean, we'll do stuff that nobody's ever done before. REGARDING CO-DEPENDENCY Doug Carter: Co-dependence, the modern therapy of Co-dependence goes much deeper than what happened in like "Alcoholics Anonymous" and other addictive consciousness. I'll repeat this. It doesn't make any diff- erence whether it's food, or alcohol. Whether it's chemical dependency, sexual dependency, or whether it's relationships, and it doesn't make any difference - it's all part of a bigger addictive process. CBK: Co-dependence? DC: Yeah, with a lot of people, what will happen is that they'll kick alcohol or they'll kick something else and they don't... GJC: They pick up something else. DC: They just change it. They stop drinking alcohol and so what do they do? They start smoking more, or again, or for the first time and they start drinking coffee and stuff like that, which AA condones because it's a "slower death," but it's still part of the addictive process. And the way this is manifested is. We learn a lot of our co-dependency from our parents and our parents learned it from their parents and their parents learned it from their parents, etc... I mean, God there are cases right now where what people are dealing with is healing a family and healing a family tree, because you can go back six or seven generations and find somebody that committed suicide because they couldn't deal with the addictive process, and what happened is that their kids picked up their same mannerisms and their kids picked up their same mannerisms and things like that. What happened for me is that I was lucky in that in that I recognized early enough that there something wasn't right in the way that I was treated and in the way that I was treating people. So my relationship with my daughter is really pretty good. Well she's got some stuff... some co-dependent behavior. CBK: Wait... Can you specifically state something, like what "type?" DC: Yeah, eating. CBK: Eating too much. We all eat. Some addictions are healthy... you know. DC: So, that's a co-dependent behavior. It has nothing to do with being hungry. CBK: O.K. DC: For her it has to do with being lonely, and being bored, and to a certain extent it has to do with fear associated with being left, with being abandoned. GJC: Oh, it's basic Bulemic characteristics, but without the vomiting part. CBK: Well, what would you call... Would Co-dependence then... Could you... Could you say it was not taking care of your own basic needs directly but finding an alternative? DC: Yeah... subterfuge. It ties into there not being enough of some- thing and so it's an overcompensation. It's like any impulsive/compulsive behavior is a symptom of co-dependency. And for me, personally, you know I've gone through a lot of different things, but the thing that I'm dealing with right now is in relationships. I'll go through relationships and relationships and relationships... I'll meet new people and I'll be with them and all of a sudden they're no longer exciting and it goes on and I'll find somebody else. I'll give you a better example of Co-dependency... Drugs... Adrenaline. You know... Do you ever procrastinate? DC: Well procrastination is a good technique to all of a sudden have to do something, to... Oh my God! I gotta do this, and we run around here and we run around there... CBK: That's why I'm late all the time! DC: Yeah, and what happens is... CBK: The adrenaline rush that I'm gonna be in trouble... I bet. DC: Anything like a shot of alcohol, or a shot in your arm. Adrenaline is the most powerful drug that we have. Another one is endorphine from runners. All that is Co-dependency. It's an addiction. DC: Well I figure... God Gary it's sad... I figure that probably 95 to 98% of the population in the United States is co-dependent to one degree or another. GJC: And in the book I also have a section that says Chi Kung is "The Perfect Positive Addiction." That's where it will go. CBK: Why do you think it is from our society, that we have such a large populace that cannot meet it's needs directly? Because you said it was from having an abundance... a heirachy of needs that weren't fulfilled, but it's like all societies... All children need things; to grow and to live, but what we've used as, what did you call it subterfuge?, We've... It's a big enlightenment process when we call somebody up and say, "hey, I'm lonely will you talk to me?," instead of feeling lonely and eating the chocolate cake in the refrigerator, or whatever the other co-dependent kind of behavior would be. DC: Let me answer the first question. Let's get back to if this is in fact hereditary, not from the genetic standpoint, but from an environmental standpoint? CBK: Uh huh? DC: Where did most of the people in the United States come from? They were the disenfranchised, the disenchanted people of Europe and the world. GJC: Cast offs and rejects. DC: Yeah. They came because they were either driven out or they couldn't get what they wanted in Europe, so they moved but a lot of them came because they were driven out. And when they came here, what they did was they took a peace-loving people, the vast majority of native Americans, who may or may not have been co-dependent under the current terms that we're using, and forced them out. And so generation by generation by generation, you know... we build it in. We've got co- dependent organizations and the work that I'm doing now has to do with healing organizations. Because you figure if 10% of the organization, the right 10%, if they are in fact co-dependent, they will have mannerisms and management traits that will carry off into the entire organization making the entire organization dysfunctional. How's that? GJC: Pretty cool. CBK: That's real interesting and I've always thought that sanity was a matter of majority rule. If 97% of the populace is co-dependent, then the 3% that is "normal," what do you call that? Wouldn't they be considered trange? DC: Well yeah. Well, I don't know any of them. GJC: I don't know any of them either! DC: A lot of this is really... CBK: Where do they live? Out back in Wyoming? (laughs) DC: No, they live all over. BK: Uh huh. DC: But these are the people that don't get caught up in other people's garbage. To give you an example; One of the techniques that you can use to get out of co-dependency and that is to "draw the line," and I'm working on it myself. I had a conversation with my wife's boss today. Actually, he had a conversation with me and he started talking about how we need to this, in his company, they need to do this, they need to do that, they need to do something else, and he said that he needed to talk to my wife about... and he mentioned two or three things, so he was looking to me, to help him, tell her... CBK: Uh huh. DC: How she needed to make a behavioral change. And I said, well Kevin, I'll tell you what, the first thing you need to do is to talk to her and not to me. CBK: Right, draw the boundaries... find your own boundaries. DC: Well yeah. It's not my problem. That's the first time in my life I think I realized that I can say, "that's not my problem" and not feel responsible and guilty about it. Because it's not my job, it's his job. He's the owner. She's the manager. If he's got a problem, he needs to go to her, not to me. He doesn't pay me, he pays her. CBK: Uh huh. GDC: It's amazing. You should have seen the shift occur in him and he changed. CBK: And in the past you would have unwittingly or unconsciously taken that on, gotten real... uh, soap opera... right in the middle of it. DC: Of course. I would have said, "let's take a look at this, let's see what should do.." CBK: And probably have been flattered that you were asked. DC: That's it, and that is a symptom of... DC & GJC simultaneously: CO-DEPENDENCY. DC: Co-dependency is when somebody needs you, you have a false superiority/inferiority... GJC: Or it's like the victim/savior roles. CBK: Uh huh... that makes sense. DC: Anyway, Connie, I gotta tell you, you came to the right place. This may not solve all the problems you'll ever run into in your life, but it will sure clean up a lot of old ones. CBK: Right, well it's been a lot of fun so far. Yeah, well I feel like we're old friends in a way. DC: Remember what I said was that my whole body was frozen up and the reason is because people tend to store emotional feelings in their bodies, specifically in organs. Some people will transfer from an organ to different muscle groups. I don't know exactly how it works, but it seems to work that way. There are different organs that seem to store a specific type of emotion or feeling. GJC: Organs or body areas. DC: I know that for me "abandonment" is right at the bottom of my sternum, right in that area. All of the surrounding area has to do with loneliness, fear, rejection, a lot of that for me is in my fat. "Guilt" is a lot lower down and for me, it is in my groin area. The way that you check is real simple, with medium/mild pressure, like tapping of a finger or thumb and if pressure on that area elicits pain, you know, if it hurts, if it's real sensitive. The only way it hurts is if you're resisting. Does that make sense? CBK: Yeah. DC: So, if you're resisting and you put pressure on it, it's gonna hurt. If you aren't resisting it just gives. And as long as it resists, you've got something in there. That's emotion or memory there. I said memory, I meant memory. What happens is that emotion is typically tied into memories that you didn't deal with completely. So because of that, as the body part is being softened up, you'll have the emotions. They will become elicited and you'll start to experience those more fully and as you do that you'll, most people tend to have memories, the vast majority in pictures, some people will have in sound connotations, you know things like that, but the vast majority are pictures and you'll have experiences out of your life come up that you didn't even know were there. So it actually is "buried." You "bury it" in a body part. It's like all of sudden you get scared and your shoulders draw up... like that kind of response. CBK: Uh huh. DC: Well what you're doing is preventing that emotion from being fully experienced and you've stored it. Almost guaranteed that you've stored it some place. CBK: Uh huh. DC: Does that make sense? CBK: Yes, it does. DC: That's how he does it. By touching different body parts and Gary... GJC: That's what I do on everybody when I do the Hands On, Transfer of Power. DC: That's basically in a nutshell what Hands On, Transfer of Power is all about. At least the first part of it, to help you break loose, those emotions in those parts of your body. GJC: I'll put this under the "Abandonment" section. DC: Great Stuff! INSIDE KUNG FU MAGAZINE APRIL 1987 AN INTERVIEW WITH GARY J. CLYMAN This interview was printed in part in the April 87' Issue of Inside Kung Fu magazine. This interview was between myself and one of my students, Mr. Dennis Franke R.N. The response to this article gave me a national and international reputation and visibility. Since this publishing, clients and students of all levels have come to study with me from all over the country for my special Two Day Private Instruction Format. This is that article in its entirety. Gary J. Clyman is director of the Chicago Wholistic Health Center, a unique clinic where the ancient arts of Taoist self-cultivation still live - 20th century style. Clyman's practice is one of Bio-Mechanics, Spinal Touch Treatment, Orthomolecular Nutrition, Muscle Response Testing, and PERSONAL POWER TRAINING. But behind this modern terminology, and Ithe doors of his downtown loop office, hides the Chinese arts of Tai Chi boxing, Tao Yin corrective exercise, An Mo massage, Wai Tan alchemy, and Chi Kung meditation - practices of Chinese Taoism shrouded in secrecy and rarely practiced today as a unified self-healing system. In each of these arts Gary J. Clyman is an expert, a modern Master. Ever since the age of twenty he has been studying, cultivating, refining, and teaching the arts of Yang Sheng - Taoist practices for the "nourishment of life and the strengthening of it against disease." A life-long Chicago resident, he is a senior member in the city's martial arts, macrobiotic, and wholistic health circles. He has appeared on numerous T.V. and radio shows; twelve of the latter with his friend and mentor Dr. Robert Mendelsohn (deceased April 1988). And in an ever-continuing effort to spread the Illinois Wholistic Health Network: a forum of health care practitioners dedicated to the education and promotion of wholistic healing in the greater Chicago metropolitan area. If there's still meaning in the epithet, "a self-made man" then Gary J. Clyman embodies that ideal. All of Clyman's training as a wholistic health practitioner was secured by direct, one-on-one apprenticeship and thousands of hours of intense, disciplined practice. The adventure began in 1974. After a year and a half of studying the Korean fighting art of tae kwon do, with Master Han Cha Kyo, and enlightened by the new Feng and English translation of the Tao Teh Ching, he went in search of a martial art that could offer more than just fighting know-how. He wanted to develop vitality, assertiveness, self-esteem, and character. Han thought him "so strange for an American to want to be Philosopher?" Eventually, Clyman discovered Temple Style Tai Chi Ch'uan and the city's premier Tai Chi Master, Waysun Liao; and for the next six years he studied full time with Liao and his two branch school instructors. It was during the period with his second Tai Chi instructor that he immersed himself in the Nei Kung - to develop the self and cultivate the Three Taoist Treasures of Jing, Chi, and Shen. To cultivate his Chi, his inner energy, Master Liao put him on "the monk's diet": a regimen of grains, beans, vegetables, and seaweed. Living the Monk's life, he ate the diet, became celibate, and practiced Tai Chi from six to ten hours a day. To learn the classical Taoist path his textbooks became the Secret of the Golden Flower, Charles Luk's Taoist Yoga and Secrets of Chinese Meditation, and the tenth-century Ishimpo: Tao of Sex. In those early days when Liao's was a center for imported Chinese talent, Clyman had the opportunity of being exposed to Chinese wrestling, Shuai Chiao, with the Grandmaster of the art, Chang Tung Sheng, who died April 1987 at 78 years old. Acupuncture was exposed to Clyman in 1975 as he received his first lessons in natural healing. And of course, Master Liao opened the door to the inner workings, the temple secrets, of Temple Style Tai Chi and Chi Kung. In the fall of 1979 Clyman attended a Chiropractic seminar as the assistant of Dr. Ineon Moon, his acupuncture teacher. The lecturer was Dr. Lamar Rosquist from Salt Lake City, and he was teaching the original John Hurley D.C. technique under the name of "The Spinal Touch Treatment," a non-force, gentle, soft tissue technique that works by releasing hypertonic muscles that misalign the spine and pelvis, he had found it the most helpful technique in his large Chiropractic clinic. Gary immediately sensed that "The Spinal Touch Treatment" was after the same results as Tai Chi - perfect alignment of the spine through "hanging by a string at top of head" and "tucking the pelvis under." He saw that The Spinal Touch Treatment's goals of proper body mechanics and unimpeded neural flow were the same as those of An Mo massage with its manipulating of the sinews and stroking of the Chi tracts. He added it to his repertoire of natural healing arts and it soon became the center of a successful wholistic health practice. Gary J. Clyman is an imposing, fiery personality. He often comes on too strong, with his ever-present handshake and booming smile, that new acquaintances are hard put to peg the man. And so they should be -- because Gary Clyman is one of those rare spirits totally enmeshed in the joy of living. If his sense of life could be labelled I'd call it Yang Chu hedonism, after the fourth-century Taoist, because he finds real joy in every action and endeavor, whether it's doing the Tai Chi form, meeting a new client, sparring with a parking lot attendant, or yes, even jostling a drunk driver from his car to perform another citizen's arrest. Optimism and vitality are his trademarks. The years of Tai Chi practice show in his military posture, erect and buoyant, yet still pliable and rooted in his every move. He uses and somehow remanufactures more energy in one day than most of us do in a week, and it just may be that his daily Tai Chi and Chi Kung practice has something to do with it. In his interview he shares the secrets of Chi Kung meditation, the central practice of Taoist Yang Sheng without the mysticism, which is the foundation of his PERSONAL POWER TRAINING Workshops. IFK: Just what is Chi Kung meditation? GJC: Chi Kung is an ancient Chinese Taoist method for rejuvenating your internal energy systems - your Jing, Chi, and Shen. It's done using various postures and different kinds of breathing, but it's the internal exercises behind these outer movements that's important. So right here it's different than say Hatha yoga or Chinese calisthenics, which it can look like; plus, the postures aren't for stretching. Traditionally, it's part of Taoist yoga - the practices of the Taoist monk's. Today, it's the backbone of the internal martial arts of Tai Chi, Hsing I, and Pa Kua. (If it's taught that is!) Right now in China, a popularized version is getting attention as a kind of cancer therapy (see Chi Gong: Chinese Cancer Patients Exercise their way back to Health in East West Journal, March 1983. Ed.) There are similarities with Tantric yoga, but the language, exercises, and objectives are different. What makes Chi Kung unique is the conscious directing and use of the energy. So, it's really a meditation for self-development, for creating change in your life; and it can be done by anyone, I've had doctors, Chiropractors, commodity traders, attorneys, housewives, teachers, and business people do this training, and everyone has experienced important, positive changes in their life. IFK: Many articles are now appearing in martial arts and new age magazines on Chi Kung. With your busy practice, have you had a chance to read them? And if so, what are your conclusions? GJC: All the articles I've read have been too superficial to do justice to this Nei Kung practice, so deep-rooted in Chinese culture. People have been led to believe that if they sit in the lotus posture and stretch one hand over their head and hold the other at tan tien while they abdominal breathe, that's Chi Kung. No way! Chi Kung means internal energy work, internal training! And it's tied into the oral secret teach- ings of the Taoists, and martial arts Masters. What we're talking about here is a sophisticated inner science involved in this art. People have spent their entire lives doing this and never moved off a cushion. I mean, if they're doing - why the superficial material? But there is always a purpose in putting something forth: they've prepared the public for what's to come. IFK: Many of these articles describe "abnormal reactions" or "danger signals" occurring as a result of practicing Chi Kung. Have you seen these reactions in your students? GJC: I don't know why these reactions are being called "danger signals"! If you're a body builder you're always at risk of hurting yourself somewhere along the line. If you're a surgeon, work in the operating room is one big risk! If you want to be good at anything in life you must develop the warrior spirit to handle the so-called "dangers"; which, by the way, I still haven't acknowledged - and it's been over eleven years now. You have to look at the American people and the prevalent attitude. If they don't get it in five minutes, it's not worth working for. Everyone has to understand that when we're talking about Chi Kung or internal Kung Fu training, this stuff takes awhile to learn. No, I don't mean they should get ripped off by thinking that it will take ten or twenty years. If a student has the right teacher, the right material, and is really motivated, then he can excel in a relatively short time: say, from six months to two years. He doesn't have to sit on the doorstep for five or ten years before the "venerable Master" decides to share a secret or two. So, you have to listen to where the articles are coming from. Does the person giving the Hwarnings really know what he's talking about? Usually the warnings are coming from a place of fear, of trying to protect the system. IFK: But isn't there a kernel of truth in the articles regarding headaches, ringing in the ears, dizziness, and emotional catharsis that might be triggered by this meditation? GJC: Yes, but these aren't problems to worry about or to deter you from practicing Chi Kung. The more of these symptoms that a student has when practicing, the better, because as they figure out how to work through all these little bumps on the road, they're going to become masters, powerful, fearless! My advice is "do not worry about these reactions. No pain, no gain, no risk, no nothing!" Years ago in the heart of my Tai Chi training, I learned a valuable lesson applicable here. I'd often see my Tai Chi master whenever I had a problem with another student, a problem at work, or a problem at home. I'd go to him and ask: "What should I do about this?" His standard answer to reduce it's importance was: "When you're on a long road and you run over a little rock, do you stop to see what's happened to the rock, or do you just continue on, more concerned with the actual journey?" That's the approach I use with my students. When a student calls me up and has a problem and says: "What about this. I feel like..." Whatever it is, I say: "O.K. Don't worry about it. If you just sit it out, you'll get through it" - because the human body is amazing. Look at what we've been eating and breathing all these years, so for a little while you'll be uncomfortable, big deal. Just take a break and come back with a different exercise and slow down." This kind of reassurance is usually all that's needed. IFK: One last question about "danger signals." Quoting a popular author here: "Another common sensation is shaking or trembling. This is most pronounced in static postures, but may also be experienced in moving forms such as Tai Chi Chuan or Pa Kua Chang. Trembling may be in the joints, particularly in the wrists and knees, or even internally, in the abdomen. Shaking should be neither resisted nor encouraged. It is caused by a blockage in Chi flow." GJC: Only 50% true. First of all, when practicing Tai Chi or sitting in a Chi Kung posture that you're not used to and you start shaking, that doesn't mean there's a "Chi blockage." It means your sinews, that is, your connective tissue, tendons and ligaments, and your muscles too, aren't used to working in these positions. From a Tai Chi point of view, if you look at the way most people move and the way they sit, they sort of jerk around from one position to the next. Look at our favorite Western sport, Baseball. If a baseball game lasts for three hours, are the players exercising for three hours or is it really for only maybe 30 minutes? However, when you're practicing Tai Chi or Chi Kung, it's a continuous Nthing. So, yes, you're legs and arms will tremble. In fact, I'd say that if somebody learned from me and they didn't tremble or shake, they weren't doing something right: either not working hard enough, not standing low enough, or they were just day dreaming. So, its no big deal, and it's certainly not a "danger." But! With the experienced student who's trained well and who has vibrations in the abdomen or up the spine during meditation, that's what he's been chasing after! He should be excited and grateful about it! It's just here that the student needs an under- standing of the traditional Three Treasures so he can make sense out of what's happening, and what's in store for him too. IFK: So you consider exposure to the "Three Treasures" theory important for success in Chi Kung? What about elusive concepts of Chi, Jing, and Shen? GJC: Most books confuse this and make it impossible to understand. I'd rather give the student four or five sentences he could relate to and say: "I know what he's talking about." And even taking the risk that the concept he gets is incomplete, at least it's a beginning that he can build upon during his training. It's best to look at Chi, Jing, and Shen as levels. On the deepest somatic (body) level is Jing - sexual energy. When you're sexually attracted to someone, or when sexually aroused and you have an erection, its the energy of raw Jing surging up within you. To harness that energy and work it into a purified form, to cultivate it for purposes other than the sex act, say for fighting or personality development - that's the motivating fiber of Chi Kung meditation. As the student uses this concrete idea to guide his practice, and as begins to understand my wholistic health orientation, with the emphasis on diet, nutritional supplementation, and proper body mechanics, it's not hard for him to expand this idea into the more abstract one of seeing Jing as the organism's generative and regenerative energy system, a power source that at conception activated cells, and then tissues, organs, the mind, the total person, and now - repairs them too. So, the vibrations then are cultivated Jing. Going back into my own Tai Chi training, I remember my first intense vibrations and having my Tai Chi brother touch the base of my neck to see if he could feel anything. He couldn't feel a thing, but to me I was on a roller coaster. I wasn't afraid though. Remember, there's two attitudes you can take: "Oh my god what's happening to me"! ,(wimpy way) or "Oh boy, here we go! This is what I've been working for all these months" (warrior way). So, when my students have their first vibrations they're very excited; they think it's great. IKF: So how does this contrast with the famous "Chi" or "ki" so often written about? GJC: With Jing you can transmit its energy, or the manifestation of your internal development, to another person and they can feel it. So here, if I hold both of your hands and decide to give you a shock, the feeling you can get from my cultivation of raw Jing, and its release, the fah, is pure Jing. "Fah Jing" is the "mysterious" power of the great Tai Chi Masters. It's sometimes labelled "Fah Jing." Jing can be transmitted for healing purposes also, but when we're talking about Chi, the energy of Chi can manifest as a sensation I feel that has nothing to do with the vibrations I can transmit to you. Chi energy (internal energy) has a completely different vibratory frequency. Chi vibrations are in the next level and are shorter, smaller, and faster vibrations. Jing vibrations (internal power) are more guttural, more physical, and a slower. Chi of course, moves the entire universe, and is in all of us from our first embryonic breath as the source of organic change and movement, of breathing, eating, walking, fighting, thinking, and even aging too. But to sense it and use it with purpose takes technique, practice, and work. An analogy is helpful here to my students. An internal combustion engine must have an energy source, gasoline, and a method of igniting the energy, the ignition system, into the more usable form of energy, horsepower. For us, Chi is the energy source, Jing is the power, and Chi Kung is the method of transformation. IKF: So how do you put this mechanism to work? How do you harness the Chi and make it work for you? What's your basic approach here? GJC: The concept that cuts through the fog of ignorance and secrecy, the concept that allows the student to use Chi with purpose, to cultivate Jing, to develop and "burn" it into form, to become a dynamic self-powered individual is "The Condensing Principle." "The Condensing Process" is one of creating an inner vacuum with Chi, Jing, and Shen all at the same time. It's the process of packing the essence of things into every thought, intention, and action. Here's one basic condensing technique for developing Jing: whatever the posture, on the inhale focus on the body to expand, and at the same time focus on the inhaled Chi to contract, to condense, into the core of the body; then, on the exhale focus on the body to contract, and at the same time focus on the inhaled Chi to expand. On each inhale and exhale there is a simultaneous mental focus to expand and contract. This particular technique does two things: first, it sensitizes you to where you are in space as a physical, material body, and second, it introduces you to the first glimmer of Chi sensation, so much used in later training. This is just step one. As we go on and on, what we're doing is refining this same basic technique to the point where it goes from as gross as the body contracts, to where all the molecules in your body condense into one single atom. IKF: I understand that your Basic Path Training and The Sitting Forms make use of many postures and coordinated movements. What's the idea behind the variety? GJC: Basically they all accomplish the same thing - to help the mind direct the Chi and Jing through the auxiliary Chi tracts. It's like dancing: when you're studying it, you have to learn more than one step. A similar problem exists here as in Tai Chi. Many students base their choice of a system or the quality of their chosen system on how many movements there are in it. "Oh, my form has 108, his has only 68, but I know of one that has 138." This is an attitude conceived in ignorance. What's important is, at the end of the training, what does the inter- pretation look like, not how many movements there are. In Tai Chi there's only thirteen forms anyway, no matter how you count them: ward off, roll back, press, push, elbow, shoulder, roll/pull, split, and the five style steps or the four directions and center. So, no matter how you concoct the name, the form is still only going to be a combination of "The Original Thirteen Forms." In my Chi Kung training, I've used "The Condensing Principle" to condense all the material into something that makes sense, and that can save the student years of struggle. Four standing forms in Basic Path Training and "6 Forms and 7 Circulations" otherwise known as "The Sitting Forms with the Mind Training" is the result. More important than the Chi pathways used during the movements is the specific emotion that becomes associated with that movement for each student. They get angry with one movement, they laugh with another, get depressed or excited with another. The forms initiate a real, observable cleansing process, what I call "Retracing /Releasing." For example, if a student has a history of physical violence and was abused as a child, when practicing "The Sitting Forms with The Mind Training," they get in touch with the emotional trace of that experience held in the body tissues by the Jing Chi "burning" it out. Such a history manifests in bursts of crying with one form, anger with another. Its different for each person. So when the material base for the emotion is destroyed and the emotion is reexperienced, they release this pent-up energy. They set themselves free of the past and come to live more "in the moment." A new, clearer vision develops. "The Sitting Forms with The Mind Training," especially help "burn" the way through whatever trace is holding back their development, whether it's in muscle tissue, nerve tissue, Chi tracts, psychic blockages, whatever. This is the "secret" Taoist process called "transmutation of energies." Chi Kung is such a great system of meditation, and coupled with Tai Chi, its the ultimate. I'd say it's the "Grand Ultimate." (Tai Chi Ch'uan is translated as Grand Ultimate Boxing. Ed.) IKF: In most meditation the mind is calmed and it simply registers the flux of consciousness to naturally reach a state of pure awareness for eventual union with the absolute. In Chi Kung however, the mind seems to be very active and directed. GJC: It's active, but it's also concentrated, that is, focused. The mind is active only in the sense of "guiding the Chi," not thinking. This is called "Hsing Chi" and it means "wherever the mind goes, the Chi follows." Most meditation restricts awareness to mantra, a mandala, a chant, or the breathing. Most articles treat Chi Kung as a form of visualization - wrong! This is not. My concept of visualization is something created in imagination, something not existing, or not yet existing, like in the method of Creative Visualization. In Chi Kung you're not visualizing Chi condensing, circulating, or dispersing through the use of images, you are actually doing it, physically. The proof is that you can feel the forewarned effects, and later, the personal power is there and you feel it. When using Tai Chi in a martial application, someone else feels it. This is not like other meditation systems in which consciousness is worked at the expense of the body. In the Taoist view, there is an innate wholistic union of Chi, Jing, and Shen. Whenever one is being exercised, the other two are right there getting worked also. The Taoists wanted us to develop all our innate capacities so we could experience the joys of living here on earth for as long as possible. In Chi Kung, the person develops as a total unit, more fit for living. IKF: You've talked about Jing and Chi, the basic concept of condensing, and a few other techniques, where does Shen, the third "Treasure," fit in? GJC: Well, how do you take all this, the whole system of Chi Kung, and use it in your daily life? That's what Shen is about. When you develop the personal power of Jing you have to express this excess of vitality in some way. Since you've released latent Jing energy stored in armored muscles, tendons, and ligaments and added it to your pool of retained sexual energy, you're no longer a composite of everything that's happened to you in the past. You become "in the moment." You're not distracted by what happened last week, or six months ago. Now you can focus all the energy that you are on something new, on new goals, on a new direction for yourself. What I see in my classes is my students and clients developing the ability to recognize events for what they are. They make decisions more quickly and confidently. Their lives become simpler, less cluttered with emotional baggage, and the fear of doing new things disappears. The cultivated Jing manifests in their physical presence and awareness, the Chi, in their ability to think more clearly, to make up their minds and not be distracted. The Shen is their ability to "follow through" on what they've decided upon. "Shen is the way you can manipulate your universe to be what you want it to be. Its your outlook on life - the way you work Kin the world." That's my understanding of the "Three Treasures." It grew out of my Kung Fu training, not out of the philosophy books. IKF: Give me an idea of the energy paths your students use in your PERSONAL POWER TRAINING. GJC: "Basic Path Training" makes use of the basic forms from my Temple Style Tai Chi System. This is a non-moving standing meditation where the Condensing Principle is integrated into Upward and Downward, Inward and Outward, Holding Tai Chi Ball, and Raised Hands and Stance. In The Sitting Forms with the Mind Training, they learn the 'well points' for drawing in and releasing Chi, how to circulate along the Chi pathways, The Micro Cosmic Orbit, and the seven subtle tao yin forms. Breath training exposes them to the different breathing methods, and sphincter training helps the student comprehend how to pump Jing, and it prepares them for the advanced Taoist Sexual Technique. And Tai Chi Chi Kung is another advanced course where all basic concepts and techniques come together using moving Tai Chi forms. Many students then decide to take my Temple Style Tai Chi and over a longer period learn the principles of proper body mechanics, how to transfer Jing, and of course my favorite, self-defense. IKF: Isn't Chi Kung usually taught as part of Tai Chi training? At least isn't that the martial arts tradition? GJC: Yes. But in my Tai Chi classes I was rarely able to teach this to any of my Tai Chi students - they had to be around for two or three years first and complete the Tai Chi System. The chances of a student surviving my Tai Chi system were about two in a thousand. The training I give is like being in a monastery. It's as if you signed yourself up for five or six years in Taiwan or China and said: "don't let me out until my time is up." This is the intensity of how I teach in Chicago. So to share these secret oral teachings, and to help people with physical or emotional problems take an active role in their own well-being, I've set up the training so I can take someone with no background in internal Kung Fu, and I teach them the basic concepts of Chi Kung, the basic tech- niques, and the practical application for modern, high-intensity living. When they work hard, they receive the personal power benefits of Chi Kung, as if they had studied Tai Chi for ten years. Traditionally, Chi Kung was taught only as an extension of Tai Chi training, only after however long the teacher wants to keep the student on the hook. If the teacher even knows Chi Kung, that is. I'm not doing that. This material is too valuable to keep a secret any longer. IKF: The basic premise of your work then is that Chi Kung and Tai Chi offer a comprehensive program for optimal health? GJC: Right! But it even goes beyond that and introduces the element of longevity into the students life. All we've discussed thus far is part of the Taoism Nei Tan program of internal transformation, what I call PERSONAL POWER TRAINING. Natural diet is important too. It's from our food and air that we receive the Jing and Chi components to manufacture new raw Jing energy for later cultivation in Chi Kung. The more pure and balanced the diet, the better the Jing production. That means basically a macrobiotic diet of grains, beans, vegetables, and fruits. Scientific research is showing that a low- fat, high complex carbohydrate diet like this can zap degenerative diseases and extend the life-span. Even here the Taoists had another trick up their sleeves. Their Wai Tan program of external elixirs was an attempt to create anti-aging medicines so they could experience life with the intensity of the Hsien Immortal - "to fly on the clouds," as Chuang Tzu said. This idea, that certain chemicals could extend our life-span, lives today in gerontology research labs. Scientists like Leonard Hayflick and Roy Walford have written that using vitamin and mineral supplements to neutralize cellular oxidants may be the best method to retard aging and extend the life-span to 120 years. Not quite enough time to become a Hsien Immortal, but good enough for we modern city folk! IKF: So, as a wholistic health practitioner you've found that changing to a natural diet is pretty important for creating more energy and power in a person's life? GJC: Of course, but since our farm soils are so over used and crops are force-fed with growth-stimulating fertilizers, its not enough to rely on just the nutrients in foods to supply the needs of a modern people. What's needed is a reliable quick method to check our low energy states and the deficient nutrients that may be responsible. Only then can a wise choice be made in choosing "the right supplements," if they are needed. And its just here again that the Taoists and acupuncturists were close on the track of how to monitor out own nutrition. The acupuncture tracts and their Chi circulation can now be tested using Applied Kinesiology, or muscle response testing, to discover low levels of molecular vibration and the corresponding nutrient deficits. We're all heirs to this tradition and its modern application. If the ancient Taoists are up there "flying on |