THE CHI KUNG BIBLE:  MASTERING PERSONAL POWER by Gary J. Clyman

CHAPTER #8 - SEXUAL KUNG FU

The sexual technique associated with the practice of Chi Kung has been 
kept a secret for many years.  Few books have been written on this 
obscure subject.  Most of my clients and students have little or no 
experience with this aspect of Chi Kung.  Neglecting this aspect of the art 
is like "leaving off the icing on the cake." 

Many years of practicing Tai Chi and being celibate for over two years 
Itaught me many things.  Those two years of celibacy and avoiding members 
of the opposite sex, turned out to be the most productive years for my 
internal power and sensitivity development.   

During that period, my internal sensitivity had become extremely acute.  
My meditations had matured and solidified, and my constitution had  
acquired my "Pit Bull" characteristics, which I still have. 

The Taoist Sexual Technique, still quite unknown, is very closely related 
to Chi Kung and is a direct extension of it.  The Taoist Sexual Technique is 
an extremely important and valuable branch of the Chinese Internal arts. 

Again as stated previously, the books on The Taoist Sexual Technique that 
currently exist, focus their attention on form, the philosophy, and the 
emotional sides of the art, again missing the point.  

Without The Chi Circulations or The Mind Training there would be no applic-
ations.  Because of my Tai Chi background and extensive experience, I have 
found form to be the least valuable.  The most important ingredient;  
Developing Your Jing (cultivated sexual energy) is usually ignored.  Form is 
barely necessary, but Jing is absolutely necessary and should be at the heart 
of your practice.  My presentation of The Taoist Sexual Technique will be for 
introduction purposes since detailed instruction might require a whole 
book to itself.  

Apply your Chi Kung while having sex and see what you discover on your own.  
Mail your questions to me and I will include them in my next book.  Make your 
questions as specific as possible.

RADIO SHOW:  SEXUAL KUNG FU

Good evening and welcome to Pathways.  This is your host Paul O'Brien.  
Every week at this time we invite you for a visit with selected leaders in 
transformation and self-discovery.  This week we have live in our KBOO 
Studios, Gary J. Clyman, a Tai Chi Master from Chicago. 

Paul:  Gary it's good to have you back on the show. 

GJC:  Hi. 

PO:  We've had you on the show a couple times and you've talked to us about 
Temple Style Tai Chi Chuan. 

GJC:  Right. 

PO:  Your Personal Power Training Seminar,  The Inner Power Workshop,  
The Spinal Touch Seminars... 

GJC:  Yeah, we haven't talked about that yet, but that's not what we're here.

PO:  No, we'll have to do that on another show.  And, in general, your 
business is called Energy for Life Systems.   We've talked to you about  
quite a few things, and tonight we're going to talk about Sexual Kung Fu. 

GJC:  That's right! 

PO:  What is Sexual Kung Fu? 

GJC:  OK.  Well first of all, in order to understand what we are talking 
about, this goes into learning the Internal Meditation System that I teach 
and adapting it while you're making love, so let me talk a little bit 
about, how to cultivate internal energy in general.

PO:  O.K. 

GJC:  When you practice Chi Kung, which means "Energy Work" in Chinese, 
what you're doing is developing and cultivating sexual energy.  Now it's not 
normal sexual energy which almost everybody has, we're talking about some-
thing very specific called "Jing," in Chinese.  "Jing" is a transformed 
accumulation and directed use and form of this energy so that it really is 
a lot different.  

The way that I found this, to give you a little background first is, I 
started Tai Chi in 1974 and in about 1977, I learned what is called "Chi 
Kung," after I'd been in the system about three and a half, almost four 
years.  This is like the end result, one of the end things, the last 
thing that you learn in "Temple Style," the Tai Chi System that I practice.  

What that is, is that it's purely "internal," very little, about 20% 
shows up externally that you can see a movement or something.  Most of 
my Chi Kung system is done either sitting still on a chair or on a cushion.  

When you cultivate internal energy or "Jing," what you're doing is, you're 
moving energy and you're condensing energy, when I said "Condensing," I 
mean "sucking energy from your Universe, from your environment," and  
sort of "converting coal to diamonds" in the process. 

PO:  O.K. 

GJC:  And when you cultivate internal energy, it affects you in a lot of 
different ways.  One of the major ways and what I concentrate on in my 
training that I do, is I help people develop a sense of what I call "self-
containment."  That means the ability to be self-contained, primarily, and 
what that means is that they are not really reliant on things or on other  
people. 

PO:  So this is a special kind of meditation that you teach? 

GJC:  Yeah, Chi Kung. 

PO:  Chi Kung is a type of meditation that has to do with internal alchemy  
so to speak? 

GJC:  Yeah, it's not like TM, or like different yoga systems where there's 
stress reduction.  Yes, there are stress reduction aspects, but it's not 
primarily a stress reduction practice.  It's primarily for utilizing, 
cultivating and harnessing internal energy and developing your WILL. 

PO:  O.K., now I can see how an individual could use cultivation in terms 
of getting more personal power from within, and all that.  What about dual 
cultivation which is really what we're talking about tonight? 

GJC:  "Dual cultivation" is the process of two people circulating their 
internal energy in what's called The Micro Cosmic Orbit which is taught in 
my workshop.  When two people do it and I don't mean just sitting next to 
each other, I'm talking about while two people are "making love," when one 
or both parties circulates their internal energy, it's like meditating 
together but it's like a feeling that you've never experienced before.  I've  
been doing this since 1977. 

PO:  Now The Micro Cosmic Orbit is something that flows between the both  
of them? 

GJC:  No, The Micro Cosmic Orbit is your own internal circulation.  It's 
circulating energy inside the torso, up the back of the spine and down the  
front of the spine.  Dual cultivation is doing it together. 

PO:  So what difference does it make whether you're having sex or not? 

GJC:  Well, you don't communicate with anybody when you're doing it  
yourself. 

PO:  Oh, so how does your Micro Cosmic Orbit communicate with somebody 
else, or somebody else's Micro Cosmic Orbit? 

GJC:  Well, when you're having sex, and I'm not just talking about when 
you're "inserted," it doesn't have to be that way.  You can circulate without 
any sexual contact, however, you've got something called Tantra yoga, 
which some people listening to the program may have heard about.  Tantra 
is a little different than The Taoist Sexual Technique, which is what I 
teach.  The Taoist Sexual Technique allows women to orgasm and doesn't 
allow men to, and Tantra doesn't allow women to either.  It's like you  
treat the orgasm as... 

PO:  An obstacle. 

GJC:  Something very very special.  Well, imagine raising a dog.  You get it 
as a puppy, you raise it, you've had it two years and then you slit it's 
throat.  And then you get another puppy and you raise that two years and 
then you raise that for another two years and then you slit it's throat.  

So, what we do when you have an organism or we ejaculate as men, is we just 
completely annihilate any energy that we've been able to accumulate and 
build up.  Now, when you practice Chi Kung and you cultivate internal 
energy, that becomes a very precious thing and you're not so anxious to 
give it up.  Now most men are uncomfortable about having sexual energy in 
their bodies so what do they do?  They do whatever they can to get rid of 
it.  They drink or they... they do all kind of things.  So what do you do 
when you're practicing The Taoist Sexual Technique... I'm careful.  

PO:  That's good.  We're on the radio here. 

GJC:  I almost forgot... What you do when you're practicing The Taoist 
Sexual Technique, is you treat the orgasm like it's something extremely 
valuable that you don't want to have, because that same energy that you 
use when you're having sex is the same energy that you use to create 
dynamic physical presence, to be self-assured and to have self-confidence, 
and do all the other things that make you... 

PO:  Now wait a minute!  Wait a minute!  There's a lot of men, I'm sure 
they're a lot of men that are confident, self-assured, etc., that still  
ejaculate. 

GJC:  Right, but we're not talking about cultivating "Jing" or cultivating  
sexual energy. 

PO:  O.K., well what is the problem that cultivating Jing solves, or 
addresses itself to?  What is it good for really, I mean? 

GJC:   Well, it's good for a lot of things.  It's really good for health 
benefits.  There are a lot of people that are having all kinds of different 
aches and pains all over their body that if they practice Chi Kung and they 
didn't just lose it on a regular basis, they would just feel better.  It's 
like they treat themselves.  They keep healing and healing.  This is also 
called "healing energy." 

PO:  So, is this an all or nothing proposition?  I mean is it... 

GJC:  No it isn't. 

PO:  O.K.  So it's kind of like regulating the orgasm is good, even if 
you don't? 

GJC:  Yeah, you can not do it at all, which some people do, rare, but some 
do.  Or, you can use it for prolonging sex also, which a lot of men do.  You 
know, if you go an extra two hours or so and at the end of that you decide 
that you want to "let it out."  That's a different story.  I don't do that 
necessarily.  The book you have in front of you is called, Taoist Sexual 
Secrets of Love, Cultivating Male Sexual Energy.  

That's a book by Mantak Chia, from New York and that's a whole book on what 
the benefits are and how to circulate this internal energy.  There is also 
a woman's book called Cultivating Female Sexual Energy or Ovarian Kung Fu.  

They can get it at your local bookstores. 

(Note:  I hate Chia's books.  They never give any clear instructions and I 
do NOT advise reading them anymore.) 

PO:  Now it seems to me Gary, that a lot of men are rather attached to the  
feeling of having orgasm. 

GJC:  You're very perceptive Paul, did you figure that out all by yourself?  
That's because they're always trying to get rid of their sexual energy.  
They associate it with being uncomfortable... Horny. 

PO:  But it's highly pleasurable to expend sexual energy, isn't it? 

GJC:  Yeah, but how long do you it spend it for?  About 10 seconds and then 
it takes about 5 days for you to accumulate it again. 

PO:  In the Taoist system the woman is encouraged to have orgasms? 

GJC:  Right, because first of all, woman are treated differently. 

PO:  Treated differently by whom? 

GJC:  In the Chinese old society. 

PO:  Right.  O.K. 

GJC:  But outside of that, women can have organisms because they don't  
lose what men lose. 

PO:  In other words, it's not depleting for a woman and maybe they even  
pick up energy. 

GJC:  Right.  But, men can't do that.  Some men think they can, but it's 
really not good and you know, I'm not saying that sex is not good.  I'm 
not saying that ejaculation is not good.  I'm saying that if you're 
cultivating internal energy and you ejaculate, then you're losing exactly 
what you're going after when you practice, whether you're practicing Tai 
Chi or whether you're doing some sort of other meditation.  You lose the 
electrical and chemical energy that you're starting to work with. 

PO:  O.K. well, what does it feel like to make love with a woman, I mean as  
we are both men? 

GJC:  You never did that before?  (laugh) 

PO:  What does it feel like to make love with a woman and not have...  

GJC:  And not lose it? 

PO:  And not ejaculate as a man, and the woman has an orgasm, or two or  
three, or thirty. 

GJC:  Or many, many, many... 

PO:  What does that feel like afterwards, from the male point of view? 

GJC:  Well, you can get up and go run around the block without having to 
worry about being tired, worn out, or anything.  I mean it really is  
revitalizing! 

PO:  Well what about... when I was in high school we used to hear about  
this thing called... 

GJC:  "BLUE BALLS?" 

PO:  Right. 

GJC:  No that's not it with this, because you're not just leaving your 
energy down there in your prostate gland.  What you're doing when you 
practice this Chi Kung, or whatever you want to call it that we're doing 
here, this sexual thing, is that you're circulating it throughout the 
rest of your body, which is what I teach in the training.

PO:  Uh huh.  Tell the audience some of the effects of semen loss.  Some 
of the adverse effects. 

GJC:  Fatigue.  You lose you're drive in general.  You lose you're self- 
confidence.  We're talking about men now, not women. 

PO:  Women don't? 

GJC:  Women don't lose it like that.  But when men do it, it's an extreme.  
It just wears you out completely.  I was celibate for two and a half years 
during the time that I was practicing and learning all these things. 

PO:  By celibate you mean no ejaculation at all. 

GJC:  No sex.  I said no sex. 

PO:  Different people mean different things by "celibate."  I just wanted to  
know what you meant.   

GJC:  No sex. 

PO:  No sex with a woman? 

GJC:  No sex with anything!  Nowadays that means anything.  So when I was 
practicing Chi Kung in the old days, when I was in training full time, 
what I tried to do was, I tried to practice every single practice and bring 
it back to where it was when I quit the practice before, which is a very 
very hard thing to do, because I was practicing 6, 8, 10 hours a day.  That's 
what I was doing.  Most people when they asked you what you do for a 
living, you said you did this, you did that, I said I practice Tai Chi.  

They used to look at me pretty funny and say, "What are you talking about ?

Because other people practice Tai Chi three hours a week.  I was practicing 
full time because I knew that I was going to make it and I did turn out to 
be the survivor of my generation. 

PO:  You mean your generation in that particular school? 

GJC:  A year or two either way.  I'm the only person teaching publically 
that you can find anywhere.  But when you practice this stuff, you just 
keep your energy.  Now, when you practice Chi Kung, you try to develop a 
certain ability to be with yourself in a very self-contained way.  Now if 
you ejaculate, you lose that self-containment.  If you lose it in winter 
because of the nature of winter, you know, you really lose all your body 
heat and all your "protective mechanisms."  If you do it during the spring, 
it's not so bad because things are growing and they're green and sprouting.   

Summer and Fall is not so good, but Winter is terrible and Spring is O.K. 

PO:  So, if you're going to ejaculate the best time to do it is in spring. 

GJC:  Hey, you learn pretty fast.  You might as well do it in spring. 

PO:  According to the ancient Chinese, the Jing was considered to be your 
very precious thing.  Can you say a few words about what they used to call  
"The Three Treasures?" 

GJC:  O.K., "The Three Treasures" are Jing (which is cultivated sexual 
energy), Chi (which is an electrical energy that does not show up as 
a physical vibration in the body). 

PO:  That's the "Chi" in Tai Chi. 

GJC:   Right.  And Shen is like your essence, or your spiritual essence.  
Now, the way I teach Shen in my training is a little different because I've 
taken it out of a Taoist context where out of ten people only one person 
understands what I'm talking about.  I've modernized the whole concept of 
Jing, Chi, and Shen in a way that when I'm talking about Shen in my 
training, what I mean is connecting it with visualizations, affirmations, 
and projections, to create the picture of your particular universe the way 
you want to and then it just helps things fall into place better.  

That's taking the internal essential energy which is our spirit inside 
which is different from our sexual energy and from our electrical energy.  

It's who we are in spirit and sort of superimposing our WILL into our 
environment in a way the way we plan it.   

PO:  So it's kind of like facilitating the creative force.  

GJC:  Absolutely!  And it's really exciting.  This is probably the most 
exciting thing that I teach in my workshop.   

PO:  Oh, I see.  So that's related to Chi Kung training?

GJC:  Right.  In my particular way of teaching.  Now, what I've done is I've 
taken about four to five years of Tai Chi/Chi Kung training and I've created 
it in a way that I've recreated a system that is pre-formatted so that I 
know exactly what the material is that I'm going to teach.  Many years ago, 
I decided to teach this material and I needed to set it up in a way that 
people could understand it without any previous experience and I did.  

So, I've given people all the basics that they need for practicing Chi Kung, 
which include some what I call Tai Chi Connective Meditations, which is 
not Tai Chi, but it's using the mind training, not the mind, but the mind 
training and incorporating it directly in with the body, so it's connecting 
body and mind.  I've created the workshop and I just finished one today and 
it's really good to see what people get out of it, because they really can  
change a lot of things. 

PO:  O.K.  Have you ever done a workshop on Sexual Kung Fu? 

GJC:  Yes, I did a couple of years ago in Chicago. 

PO:  Do you think there is much interest in that these days?  Are people  
ready for this? 

GJC:  I think there is.  However, I think the people that want to learn it 
don't know what they're talking about because they don't have any 
"vocabulary."  So, when I teach the Sexual Kung Fu part of what I do, it's 
after they've already taken my training, The Personal Power Training and 
then they already have the pre-formatted vocabulary that they can 
understand what I'm talking about and it's a very simple procedure.    

PO:  So then they have a context for it. 

GJC:  Yeah, because without the training they don't know, they can't... It's 
just words, it doesn't mean anything. 

PO:  Your Personal Power Training then I assume contains elements of Tai 
Chi and... 

GJC:  There is very little Tai Chi in my training, however, the Tai Chi 
Connective Meditations, I do teach Chi Kung.  The Personal Power Training 
is a self-contained unit that I teach in two days.

PO:  O.K.  What do you think the effect of dual cultivation of sexual 
energy has on a relationship between a man and a woman as a whole. 

GJC:  It really can combine them as a single unit.  It's very exciting to 
watch people practice this.  I've been doing this for a long time myself, 
but when a couple comes in together who are already a couple and they 
learn this, it's very exciting, however it's very rare to find two people 
who even care about it at the same time.  Usually you find a woman that 
knows how to do it or wants to do it and a man that couldn't care less, or 
a man that knows it or wants to do it and a woman that couldn't care less.    

But when I work with a couple that really together want to learn it, it 
just, I mean, it's like taking whatever love they have and expanding it a 
thousand percent.   

PO:  Is it possible for couples to learn this on their own? 

GJC:  If they have a background they can, but usually not.  Now, they can 
get the background from me, but they need a common vocabulary and a 
languaging system they can use.  Like reading the books doesn't do  
anything. 

PO:  It must help a little bit.

GJC:  Not much, because all it does is confuse you because you don't have 
a "physical anchor."  You don't have any "rooting" for what the books are 
talking about.  But when they take my training, they read the books and 
the books make total sense.  It's very simple but the books still aren't 
that good, except for the book I'm writing. 

PO:  Do you think that this practice ever came naturally to mankind? 

GJC:  Yeah I do, as a matter of fact.  If you were in "survival," you know, 
living in a survival environment in which we are, but a different kind of 
survival environment.   

PO:  You mean like a physical survival. 

GJC:  Right.  If you lost your seed, your precious thing, you would also 
lose a great deal of your ability for self-defense purposes.  I don't mean 
fighting necessarily, I'm talking about the environment.  So I can tell you 
from personal experience, when I first discovered this, see I've been doing 
this a lot longer than the books.  I was doing this a long time before the 
books were out.  And what I got from practicing this and the way I learned 
how to do this was from practicing the internal energy cultivation 
standing meditation in Tai Chi that I learned in 1976 and 77.  This is an 
extension of the internal energy work directly, because why work for 
years on cultivating internal energy and then get in a relationship and 
have sex and then lose everything that you've been working for.  So this 
is a direct extension of that particular idea of cultivating energy and not  
losing it. 

PO:  Well, energy has to flow.  Right?  I mean... 

GJC:  Yeah, it flows.  It flows inside your body, but it doesn't have to 
flow to outside your body. 

PO:  But it rebuilds itself, even if it does, doesn't it?  Isn't there a 
natural cycle? 

GJC:  Yeah, but it takes too long. 

PO:  How long does it take? 

GJC:  You lose five days after and four days before of all the work that 
you've done.  

PO:  So, do you think it's natural for a man to make love to a woman and 
then just roll over and go to sleep?  Does that make sense? 

GJC:  That's what is natural here. 

PO:  Well, I mean if he ejaculates.  

GJC:  Yeah. 

PO:  It's logical that that would happen then. 

GJC:  Yeah.  But that's because he "lost it."  But if you practice this, 
you  don't do that. 

PO:  Uh huh. 

OGJC:  At all.  This is the answer to all that stuff.  On top of that, I've 
had Fmen take the workshop who were concerned with more sexual performance 
things.  I mean they didn't have problems originally, but they definitely 
don't have problems now.  I mean from practicing this stuff, it definitely 
changes the way you are sexually. 

PO:  Well what did you mean, you used a peculiar phrase "that precious 
thing?"  What sociology does that come out of? 

GJC:  That's Chinese. 

PO:  What's the background on behind that? 

GJC:  Well, if you lost it, then you know what I'm talking about.  If 
you're cultivating internal energy and you spend a lot of time doing it, 
"that precious thing" is the thing that means the most to you, which is 
your personal cultivated sexual energy which is called Jing.  Now Jing 
can be used the same in many ways, it can be used for healing purposes.  

Jing is also the thing that if a Tai Chi Master touches a person and 
sends them flying all the way across the room.  It's just a different usage 
for the manifestation of Jing.  Now if you take my training and you cultivate 
internal energy, which does happen frequently, it's a different kind of 
cultivated sexual energy then it would be if you went through the Tai Chi 
system that I came from and cultivated, because when you've got a Tai Chi 
foundation or background and you cultivate internal energy, you also have 
the capability of being able to connect your internal energy to your bone 
structure and "BAM" that's where the explosive power comes from, which 
is called "Fah Jing." 

PO: Uh Huh. 

GJC:  So when you do The Personal Power Training and you learn Chi Kung 
from me, you don't develop that.  However, what you're able to do with 
your "precious thing" is that you're able to use it in business, in 
relationship, and in relationship to your self-defeating attitudes.  You 
can get rid of self-defeating attitudes and you can develop self-esteem 
and self-confidence and all that other stuff that goes along with it. 

PO:  And how does this help women?  How does it help women for men to 
cultivate their sexual energy along these lines? 

GJC:  I don't know what you're talking about. 

PO:  It is... are there any benefits for women in a "dual cultivation"  
practice? 

GJC:  Yeah.  Women.... Do you mean women who cultivate for themselves, or  
women in relationship? 

PO:  With a partner. 

GJC:  Yeah.  It brings a couple much closer together.  You know, they start 
to think together and there are all sorts of things that happen.  It really 
improves love relationships if they're "right."  If they're wrong, it doesn't.   
If they're right it does. 

PO:  It seems to me that it really would improve the quality of the love 
making from the female point of view. 

GJC:  Sure. 

PO:  Now you've talked about self-containment a lot.  I can see the value of 
self-containment and not you know just spinning off and shooting energy out 
every time you get the urge, but I'm wondering what is the relationship 
between self-containment and the ability to love somebody.   Do you think 
that it increases that? 

GJC:  Yeah.  I think that if you're not self-contained you can't do anything 
for anybody or in relationship to anybody until you've got yours together. 

PO:  Right. 

GJC:  Now the self-containment issue that I work with in the training 
helps people really be somewhere inside themselves, instead of living in 
their environment, living in their situations, or living in their problems. 

PO:  Uh huh. 

GJC:  When people work with me in the training what they're able to do is 
they're able to really get that they are not their problems and they are not 
their environment but they do in fact live somewhere inside their physical 
bodies.  Most people are only 10% available, but if you can go from 10% to 
20% available, that's 100% increase already, the way it works.  

So if somebody goes to 40% or 50% available, you know they're doing wonderful.  
They're completely different people by then.  In the way they talk, the way 
the think.  You know there's a horrible poverty mentality that runs through 
this area here.  When people develop this self-containment characteristic 
that they get from the training, they just recognize it and they're finally 
able to do something about it.   

PO:  So really, love is a form of energy and the more energy you have, the  
more you have to give. 

GJC:  Yeah, no problem. 

PO:  Studies have shown that a lot of people, particularly men, are 
addicted to sex, or addicted to orgasm.   Does this training have any value 
or people in that position? 

GJC:  Well it depends on if their sex is detrimental to them or not.  Most 
people don't know the difference so it's not a big deal.  But if somebody's 
really aware of how tired they get when they do it, then this is the 
absolute answer to that particular problem.  The problem is, most men 
don't think it's a "problem."  Because you know, they grew up in the 50's or 
the 40's and they see it on TV and they saw it in the movies and it's just 
something that's expected.  But there are men around that don't view sex 
the same way as everybody else. 

PO:  It seems to me, there's an incredible amount of ignorance around the 
subject in general. 

GJC:  Yeah, well I don't know what you mean by "the subject." 

PO:  The subject of human sexuality, of cultivating sexual energy. 

GJC:  Oh Yeah, yeah, you know, it's almost got to come from another 
culture before you learn anything about it. 

PO:  So, I was just over in Europe and I noticed how natural people were 
with their intimacy and affection and it seems very out of place here.   

GJC:  Yeah.  You go to Chicago, where I come from, and see what happens. 

PO:  Uh huh.  So would you consider that sex is an important opportunity  
for spiritual development? 

GJC:  Yes, I would.  Absolutely.  In fact, if you're doing it the way we're 
talking about here - yes, if you're talking about it otherwise - no, sex is 
usually in my book considered something like drinking, drug abuse, or 
gambling.  You know, I mean it can be used really in a bad way for people, 
as almost a distraction.  Whereas if you practice this particular kind of 
sex, or cultivating internal energy, it develops you as an individual and 
it sort of sets you up to be self-contained, and self-motivated, and self... 
and it's very exciting to watch what happens with people. 

There's a lot of people that I'm been working with in Portland, who really 
are getting a lot of benefits and some of the benefits are tied into this 
particular thing. 

PO:  Uh huh.  How do people, let's say that people don't live in a 
geographical location that's convenient for them to take one of your 
trainings?  What do you suggest for people in general to increase their 
awareness of these kinds of possibilities, to learn more about it?  What 
would be the first steps for people to take? 

GJC:  Well they could buy the books.   

PO:  Uh huh.  The Mantak Chia books. 

GJC:  Or they can contact me and I'm writing a book right now also.  It 
won't be ready for another six months.  And it will explain cultivating 
internal energy, as well as I'm going to tie in the sexual part that will 
be a special chapter and questions and answers.  I think they're in trouble.  

They've got to find somebody that knows this stuff or come and spend two 
days with me.  This isn't like learning Karate.  There's a Karate school on 
every corner.  This is almost hidden.  I mean up until my generation this 
stuff wasn't even talked about.  They kept this material for themselves, 
you know.  This was kept secret. 

PO:  There was another book out called " The Tao of Love and Sex".  Are 
you familiar with that book? 

GJC:  Yeah, I am.  That's not as technical as Chia's books.  Chia's books 
are a little better, but not much.  
 
PO:  Right.  In The Tao of Love and Sex, he talks about how in 
ancient China it was considered much more viral to be self-contained, to 
never ejaculate.  To never ejaculate was the ultimate ideal for a man 
and conferred immortality upon one.  But he talks in that book about... 

GJC:  See I avoid using terms like that because no one knows what I'm 
talking about.  I spend too much time explaining myself instead of  
communicating. 

PO:  Well that book was written by a Chinese man. 

GJC:  Jolan Chang. 

PO:  Right.  He says in there that's its a good idea for a man who is 
following this practice to make love very often, if not every day, but 
to regulate how often he ejaculates.  Maybe twice a week is O.K. for  
somebody's in his 30's. 

GJC:  Yeah, right.. there's a time.. O.K. they's a seasonal influence and 
there's also an age influence. 

PO:  And he says that its a good thing to make love often because both 
parties pick up... 

GJC:  There's an exchange of hormones and energy and all kinds of other 
things. 

PO:  Right, and there's a spiritual dimension to what's happening. 

GJC:  Right. 

PO:  Well, Gary, would you mind telling the audience how they can get in 
touch with you if they're more interested in this, or any of the trainings 
that you give because we're running out of time. 

GJC:  O.K.  They can call me at my office in Chicago at (312) 527-1188. 

PO:  Well that's it for tonight Gary.  Thank you very much for being here. 

GJC:  Thanks for having me on. 

PO:  It's been a pleasure and it's a fascinating topic.  On behalf of KBOO 
Radio 90.7 FM, this is Paul O'Brien of Pathways, signing off. 

This is Community Radio KBOO Portland, broadcasting at 90.7 on your FM  
dial.

-THE END-

HOW MUCH DO ORGASMS COST YOU?

When a man has an orgasm with a woman, he loses four days of Chi Kung 
work from before and five days after.  To "catch up" after having an 
orgasm requires a lot of work.  Now there are certain ways to have sex 
with a woman when you lose less, but you must be able to separate your 
Heaven's Essence from your Earth's Essence.  This is a very complicated  
and specific technique. 

Having sex and having orgasms are not considered the same.  Don't confuse 
the two.  You can have sex without it ending in an orgasm. 

SEX WITHOUT ORGASMS:  CHI KUNG WHILE HAVING SEX

Frequency of sexual orgasms during the winter should be restricted to 
a minimum (None is preferable).  In spring, because everything is growing 
and blooming, you can have them much more frequently, if you are "in 
practice."  During the summer and fall, you should restrict your 
ejaculations to one per week.  I don't expect many students to give up sex 
altogether, but sex in moderation is strongly suggested.  I am not 
condoning having orgasms, but you should know that one orgasm in winter 
is worth 100 orgasms in spring, and one drop of sperm is worth 100 drops 
of blood.  I cannot stress this enough.  If you are trying to cultivate sexual 
energy (Jing), can you see the drawbacks of having frequent orgasms?

MASTURBATION IS A TOTAL WASTE

You won't go blind, become insane, or get pimples, but you might feel  
drained.  There is a distinct difference between having sex and masturbating 
besides the obvious differences.  Hopefully you're not a member of "The 
Sex Without Partners Club."  If you are, resign immediately.  Having sex 
can have its drawbacks in many situations.  Masturbating is considered 
"energy suicide" in relationship to your internal energy cultivation 
practice.  Masturbation is the most important of "Clyman's Four 
Unbreakable Rules" for this reason.  It is death to your Chi Kung practice 
Kand must be discontinued and avoided at all cost.  Most men think they are 
doing themselves a favor when they masturbate.  They are actually perform-
ing the ultimate energy destruction act.  Hands Off! 

What do you think you are trying to accumulate, cultivate, and circulate 
when you practice Chi Kung?  Your Jing (cultivated sexual energy), that's 
why masturbating is so destructive.  If you think you can continue to 
masturbate and excel in Chi Kung, you will be wasting your time.  Stop 
beating off!

HOW MASTURBATION DESTROYS SELF-ESTEEM

Masturbation is a great way to eliminate any resemblances of self-
esteem, self-confidence and discipline.  If you could be in my shoes and 
interview as many people as I do, you would see just how humiliating 
"jerking off" is and what side effects it causes in men's dynamic physical 
presence, not to mention the huge energy leak it is. 

WOMEN AND MASTURBATION

Masturbation for women is also self-destructive because it reduces their 
attention span and makes them daydream.  If tension is what you want to 
get rid of, go get a massage.  If your "life force" is what you want to get 
rid of, masturbate.  Many women already have trouble achieving what they 
want in life.  Masturbating only pours water on your "little spark" that 
motivates you to strive to get what you deserve, and more.  Masturbating  
Atends to lower your "deservingness" which leads to more inaction.

SAVE YOUR SPERM

The topic that always comes up when discussing developing internal 
energy is what about your "precious thing?"  Could there be any validity 
in the saying "one drop of sperm is worth 100 drops of blood?"  I will 
present  old information and let you make up your own mind. 

CELIBACY VS. SEMEN RETENTION

A question comes up many times relating to "sex" in marriage or in 
relationships.  The question is "What is better for me?"  ("Me" being one of 
my clients), "giving up sex altogether and being celibate or practicing 
The Taoist Sexual Technique?"  Well, The Taoist Sexual Technique is a good 
alternative to celibacy.  However, celibacy is still a more internal 
practice where you can get more of your "internal work" done.  Because we 
will soon be in the 1990's, celibacy is not a very common practice for 
many people.  It requires too much discipline and giving up of the world. 

Instead of destroying your marriage by taking the sex out, the next best 
thing is to incorporate The Taoist Sexual Technique into your sex life 
whenever possible.  There will be a need for a lot of negotiation and 
compromise, but this certainly beats separation, divorce and all the other 
problems that are associated with this.  I repeat, The Taoist Sexual 
Technique is a good positive alternative to celibacy when celibacy cannot 
be practiced.

It is not practical for people to give up sex.  I don't expect anyone to 
do this, but The Taoist Sexual Technique is a workable alternative.  It 
can save your marriage and relationships as well as lead to Spiritual/Sexual 
Freedom.  Try it, you'll like it! 

"BLUE BALLS" NO MORE

A common discussion that is brought up when most men hear about this is, 
that most men think this is an unhealthy practice or that they will get 
what's called "blue balls" from practicing The Taoist Sexual Technique 
without ejaculating.  Nothing could be farther from the truth, if the  
technique is practiced correctly. 

ABOUT DUAL CULTIVATION

Little do these men know, there actually is a release, but it's not an 
external release like an ejaculation, but rather the internal energy is 
projected into your Micro Cosmic Orbit.  If both partners know what they 
are doing, it is called "dual cultivation."  It can be practiced even if only 
one partner knows how, but it may require some discussion. 

When a man practices The Taoist Sexual Technique, it's a little tricky at 
first, because the tendency is to want to let the pressure off, or ejaculate 
when he gets excited.  If you can direct your mind beyond your immediate 
situation and urges, you can take that energy and do something different 
with it.  You can obtain a lot of benefits from this practice.   

If you can control your mind during sex, you can control it anywhere.  
These benefits will show up as improvements in your health, strengthening 
your constitution, and developing a much more stable emotional state.  

This kind of love making will actually fulfill your female partner more 
if you have "the right one" and can explain what you're doing.  

This is also a good method of birth control when your technique is 
impeccable and practiced correctly.  It is best to also understand her 
fertility cycle.  Do your homework in advance. 

INCREASED SEXUAL PERFORMANCE

I have been practicing The Taoist Sexual Technique since I came out of 
celibacy in 1977.  I really works!  I discovered this practice out of shear 
necessity.  I felt like I was dying because of losing it after all that 
practicing, for the first few times.  I asked myself, "Do I have to give up  
sex for the rest of my life to get what I want?"  The answer is clearly NO. 

The Taoist Sexual Technique, when practiced correctly, can save you many 
thousands of hours of wasted practice.  I do not advise men to attempt to 
practice The Taoist Sexual Technique until they have a good grasp of Chi 
Kung in general.

The Taoist Sexual Technique is an extension of your Chi Kung practice and 
applications.  There are a few other books on this subject, but they spend 
most of their content on posture and fail to teach what the energy and 
your mind do, while circulating your energy. 

The Taoist Sexual Technique can be used for some very specific applications.  
One of these benefits is to prolong erection in the man, it can be used as 
a remedy for impotence (lack of erection) or lack of sexual drive.  

After practicing Chi Kung, sexual performance is usually enhanced, Chi 
Kung is the key to your vitality, not just in relation to sex. 

TEACHING YOUR WOMAN THE TAOIST SEXUAL TECHNIQUE

Finding "the right partner" that will let you practice The Taoist Sexual 
Technique is not an easy task.  It takes a lot of patience and explanation 
to help your lover understand a very sensitive subject.  Many women think 
the best way to satisfy a man is to make him ejaculate.  This is not true 
in regard to The Taoist Sexual Technique.  It is best to have or find a 
women that practices Chi Kung, but let's face it, the chances are slim, 
unless you train her yourself. 

I don't even teach The Taoist Sexual Technique to my male clients until 
their Chi Kung practice has stabilized.  As I have mentioned before, you 
will be using specific techniques such as Condensing Breathing, The Micro 
Cosmic Orbit, Inside Air, and others while making love. 

It is quite common for women not to want to experiment with The Taoist 
Sexual Technique, but with some it is "workable."  Many women are afraid 
of this practice because they don't want to get pregnant, not a bad fear.  

If you, the man, have low levels of self-discipline, beginning to practice 
The Taoist Sexual Technique may be harder than you think (no pun intended).  
If you don't have the sexual control that is required, I doubt if you will 
be able to talk your sex partner into anything "new."  However, there are a  
few things that might help. 

UNDERSTANDING HER MENSTRUAL CYCLE

There are certain times of the month when most women are somewhat 
predictable (if ever?).  I will give a brief explanation of the menstrual 
cycle.  Remember, there are no guarantees with this.  These are only to be 
used as guidelines.  Each woman will be different.  Do your own homework. 

The first seven days after the first day of her period are usually 
considered SAFE.  Still no guarantees. 

The second seven days is considered less than safe. The third seven days 
is considered DANGEROUS due to ovulation.

The fourth seven days may be safe, but because many women have irregular 
cycles, this cannot be counted on. 

THE USE OF RUBBERS

In order to "prove yourself" to your sex partner and to yourself, the use of 
condoms may be a much needed helper.  Remember, if your woman has been 
"doing it" all her life a certain way, getting her to change is no small task.  

For you to learn how to perform The Taoist Sexual Technique will be hard 
enough (no pun intended).  So the use of a condom will add to her  
confidence in you. 

There is one drawback.  Wearing a condom tends to "choke you off" and 
builds up pressure, so you might want to ejaculate.  This is not good for 
your self-discipline reputation.  However, there is a kind of condom that 
is not so tight and won't "choke you off."  "Sheep skin" has some added 
benefits that synthetic brands do not.  "Sheep skin" allows for an 
electromagnetic and hormone exchange, not sperm.  "Sheep skin" also does 
not "squeeze the life out of you."  I wonder if this is where that saying 
got started?  

"Sheep skin" also has the most natural feeling and is not like taking a 
shower with a raincoat on.  However, there is one drawback with "sheep 
skin" besides an animal having to give it's life so you could... the one 
draw back is, "sheep skin" does not give you any protection against AIDS.  

It is advised that you have healthy sex partners in the first place, so 
hopefully a rubber for AIDS protection is not that important in your  
case. 

Between using "sheep skin" condoms, and understanding her menstrual cycle, 
you might have a chance to incorporate The Taoist Sexual Technique into 
your daily and nightly lives.  It might be the hardest thing you ever 
tried to do, but once you become successful at it, it will be great for 
both of you.  Please note, The Taoist Sexual Technique can be used for birth 
control, but only when perfected, if ever.  No guarantees. 

Someone years ago asked me if two men could practice this technique.  
After I finished puking, I said "no."  There is an ingredient of exchanging 
energies while practicing The Taoist Sexual Technique.  I don't know how 
homosexual men would practice this and I don't care either. 

EJACULATION:  THE DOOR TO DEPRESSION

Many people, men especially, develop a state of depression related to 
expending their sexual energy in a way that does not do them any good.  

Most men look at sex and ejaculation as a release.  It is a release, but 
let us look more closely at ejaculation from a Chi Kung perspective.  If 
the goal of your Chi Kung practice is to develop Jing (internal cultivated 
sexual energy), you must understand the importance of NOT EJACULATING. 

KEEP YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY TO YOURSELF

Excessive sex leads to excessive mood swings, low energy, fatigue, and 
depression.  Most men don't recognize the differences because they are not 
aware of their sexual energy except when they are engaged in sexual 
activity.  By practicing Chi Kung and regulating the number of orgasms you 
have depending on your age, the season and the age of your female sex 
partner, you can stabilize your emotional states greatly and regain your 
"warrior spirit," which we were all born with, but lost somewhere along  
the line. 

SLEEP LESS & WEIGH LESS

A common benefit many of my male client/students notice when they 
practice Chi Kung is that they tend to require less sleep.  They become 
more rested with less sleep.  This is a very interesting phenonoma.  When 
you learn Chi Kung from me, you learn to utilize your energy in a more 
efficient fashion, thus allowing you to recuperate quicker and expend less 
energy on the same daily functions.  Another by-product is that most 
people tend to lose weight, 20-30 pounds in the first 2-3 months without  
actually changing their diet. 

I am not implying that "diet" is not important, but in the very beginning, 
"diet" is not as important as the actual practice itself.  After a student 
has been practicing Chi Kung for a short period of time and starts to 
develop more energy and a better attitude, "diet" can be incorporated into 
your daily routine at a later date.  It's not important in the very beginning.  
If new students try to change too many things at the same time, they may 
"overload" and not want to do anything.  I used to require everything from 
my Tai Chi students and found this to be too demanding on almost every  
one of them. 

The reasons for becoming celibate and practicing Chi Kung are different 
than the reasons for becoming celibate without Chi Kung.  Many people become 
celibate in response to external stimuli or pressure to the outside world.  
I became celibate for my own personal reasons.  I wanted to concentrate on 
developing my internal energy.  That was the most important thing in my 
world at that time; more important than making money, developing a career, 
having a girlfriend or family, or even becoming a doctor.  Nothing else 
mattered to me.  You will need to find your own personal reasons. 

MORE ABOUT SLEEPING

I believe any sleep over 6 hours per night is excessive.  In the old days, 
I only slept 2-4 hours at a time.  This broken and limited sleep cycle 
enabled me to develop internal consistency much quicker because I did not 
forget where I left off, before taking a break.  Remember, when I was 
training heavily, I used to practice 6-10 hours per day.  I don't expect 
anyone in these modern times to put themselves through this kind of 
"torturous" training, but if you're up for it, just call me.  (Don't worry, 
I won't be sitting by my phone and waiting.) 

Most people that practice Chi Kung that I have taught, after a short period 
of time, begin to sleep less, usually 4-6 hours on a regular basis.  Instead  
of experiencing fatigue, you actually will have more energy. 

WHEN SLEEP SEEMS LIKE A WASTE OF TIME

When a person who practices Chi Kung tries to sleep, many times the 
feeling is like - you can't sleep or you're not interested in sleeping!  
What you have here is a physical awareness that has to be directed with your 
Gdiscipline to go to sleep, and when you have as much energy as you can 
have from your practice, sleep is something you're just not interested in 
many times.  You have to discipline yourself and say, "This is it, time to go 
to sleep" and turn it off.

POSITIONING YOUR BODY WHILE SLEEPING

Much pain and suffering and the origin of many minor Chiropractic 
problems are related to what you sleep on and in what position you sleep.  
If you sleep on your stomach, you're definitely going to have low back 
problems, whether it be sacral or lumbar.  On top of that, you will have 
what is called by many Chiropractors as "a rib out."  When your ribs are 
not fitting properly with your vertebral joints, what happens is, you feel 
like you can't breath or your shoulder is "frozen," or there are many other 
symptoms associated with having "a rib out."  When you can't breathe because 
of "a rib out," it feels as if somebody is standing on your chest.  

The best way to deal with this problem is in advance ­ by not sleeping on 
your stomach and by having the right kind of pillow under your neck.  If 
you sleep on your side, your spine and your cervical vertebrae should be 
straight and aligned.  Your legs should be bent to fit together with your 
lower leg more extended than your upper leg.  If you sleep on your back, 
you need a "cervical pillow" that supports your neck properly, so you don't 
injure yourself while you're asleep.  You also need to put a thick pillow 
under your knees if you sleep on your back.  It's worth finding out what 
kind of pillow to get.  Talk to a good Chiropractor.  

As I said before, many of these Chiropractic problems can be avoided if you 
take care and are aware of how and what you are sleeping on.  Extra firm or 
hard mattresses are usually advised to give you the lumbar support that most 
people require for pain free living.

DYNAMIC PHYSICAL PRESENCE AND AWARENESS

The term "higher energy levels" refers to having an awareness of your 
energy or what I call dynamic physical presence.  The application of these 
"higher energy levels" will show up in your attitude, all your relation-
ships, and your efficiency in performing your ordinary daily tasks.  

You will also sleep less.  Chi Kung helps you be more efficient even when 
you're sleeping.  You get more from your "resting time" because of your  
efficient energy utilization. 

THINK OF ONE THING AT A TIME

It's important for you to understand that when you are practicing The 
Daily Practice Routine, specifically the first part, you are not "thinking" 
of anything other than what you are doing "in the moment."  That means 
you are not thinking of what you want, how you want it, your new 
material, or your old material.  This means you are not thinking about 
anything except what you are doing "right now."  You don't even want to be 
thinking of what you're going to practice next. 

The point is, that when you are practicing Chi Kung, you are thinking about 
the technique you are practicing.  That's all.  You try to isolate and 
discipline your mind to do one thing at a time.  This is the same principle 
that you will take into your daily life and activities. 

Let's say you've got the innate ability to concentrate for 100 points at 
one time, but when you start to think about concentrating, you're only capable 
of concentrating for 5-10%.  What a waste!  Your goal in your Chi Kung 
practice is to develop a greater ability to concentrate.  You will soon be 
able to go up to 20-30% of your ability.  

Your concentration levels will vary from time to time, depending on what's 
happening in your life.  If you concentrate on one thing at a time, by 
the time you get through your Chi Kung practice, and into The Heaven and 
Earth Meditation, Your Daily Affirmations and Your Visualizations, you are 
also concentrating at a higher percent on those, instead of just doing 
standard affirmations and visualizations with a 5-10% attention span. 

If you can raise your attention span and ability to concentrate while 
practicing Chi Kung, then by the time you get to the affirmations and 
visualizations part of the practice, your percentage is higher.  So you're 
doing more in your affirmations and visualizations than if you did them on  
their own. 

If I can teach you how to raise your physical presence and awareness in 
Chi Kung, then these levels will be higher everywhere else in your life. 

This is why many people get results with me so quickly instead of spending 
a much longer time in therapy or using some other method.  

Practice my system and you will raise your physical presence and awareness 
which gives you the ability to do what you want and when you want to do it.  
This is why so many commodity traders come to work with me.  Their results 
appear in their trading accounts.

If you are always thinking in terms of the future, that reflects a current 
self-confidence problem.  If you have sufficient levels of self-confidence, 
you know that what you are doing right now is correct and what you will be 
doing tomorrow will be correct also.  By raising your dynamic physical 
presence and awareness, you can and will overcome your low self-confidence 
levels.  You can't be in the present if you are too much in the  
future.

IMPORTANCE OR IMPOTENCE:  THE CHOICE IS YOURS

Having poor relationships with women, having some mechanical or sexual 
dysfunction where a man does not think he is "performing" as well as he 
thinks he should, are common reasons for becoming celibate.  These 
reasons represent an "aversion" to women.  Combining Chi Kung with 
becoming celibate is quite different.  It's not as if you are running away 
from something.  If you're celibate and practicing Chi Kung, it's as if you 
are running toward something.  One of my early teachers told me, "It's like 
giving up the small orgasm for the BIG one."

As I mentioned previously, a large percentage of my internal development 
had taken place during the two and a half years when I was celibate. 

THE BENEFITS OF CELIBACY

One of the benefits of being celibate is that it helps you develop a greater 
level of self-confidence and internal discipline.  When I say "internal 
discipline," I am referring to the reduction of external distractions that 
are associated with relationships and having sex.  When you go to sleep at 
night and when you wake up in the morning, it is easier for you to pick up 
exactly where you left off the night before.  This principle will be  
discussed later. 

WHY RE-INVENT THE WHEEL

Most people work all day long to get to a certain place, whether it is to 
feel good, to follow a certain train of thought, or any other extended 
logical progression.  Most people drop the ball in relation to being 
consistent when they go to sleep.  This means much energy is lost in 
trying to get back what you had at the completion of the previous day or 
what I call "picking up where you left off."  There is very little relation 
between where they were the day before, and where they begin the next day.  

When I say "they stopped," I am not referring to practicing Chi Kung, I  
mean life itself. 

SELF-CONTAINMENT:  THE KEY TO CONSISTENCY

Being celibate, and combining celibacy with the practice of Chi Kung, 
develops what I call Self-Containment.  My definition of "Self-
Containment" is 'to have the ability to be by yourself without any reliance 
on the outside world or anybody else.'  You lose much less energy and  
develop more consistent energy/thought patterns. 
Being celibate with Chi Kung gives you "a handle" that you don't get to 
experience in normal daily life.  The self-containment that is actualized 
while in this stage of your development will stay with you for the rest of 
your life.  Once you change this way, you don't change back. 

BIGGER ORGASMS, WOW!

Sex will never be the same again after giving up the little orgasm for the  
BIG one.  This leads to "immortality and longevity." Self-Containment 
while being celibate tends to alter your personality and make you very 
stable, not at first, but after you get used to the shock of  
the isolation. 

RUNNING AWAY OR RUNNING TOWARDS

Many people are celibate without Chi Kung, but they are essentially 
"running away" from sex, or "running away" from interpersonal 
relationships and the problems associated with them.  They are running 
away from something, but they are not running toward anything (religious 
reasons excluded), unless they have a great amount of insight, and most  
people don't. 

Being celibate and running toward something by using Chi Kung is 
different for each person, but this target primarily represents Self-
Containment, which is something that most people don't have or  
experience. 

EXPERIENCE STABILITY THROUGH CELIBACY

When you practice Chi Kung and you are celibate, you will be living in a 
very stable environment.  It's as if you wake up, you are the same way, you 
work all day long, you are the same way.  You go to sleep, you are the same 
way, and when you wake up the next day, the goal is be where you were the 
day before, when you went to sleep.  This is called "Self-Containment and  
Internal Discipline." 

GIVING UP SEX IS NOT ENOUGH

This result does not come with only being celibate because there are 
always too many variables.  I have spoken with with many people who have 
tried being celibate without Chi Kung and they do not experience their 
results in this same way.  If you use Chi Kung as your "grounding," your 
root, or your anchor, it makes your celibacy more stable and productive.  

I will use a Buddhist illustration.  It is as if you have not slept in 6 
months but you're not tired.  Your concentration has not been broken for a 
long time. 

INTERNAL DISCIPLINE VS. SELF-DISCIPLINE

Internal Discipline is quite different from self-discipline.  Many people 
have and understand Self-Discipline.  However, Internal Discipline is quite 
different.  It is picking up where you left off the day before and without  
skipping any beats.  This is very important in becoming Self-Contained. 

PLUGGING THE LEAKS

Celibacy with Chi Kung also leads to "Plugging the Leaks" whether the 
leaks be spiritual, physical, sexual, or in your personality. 

MAKING ROOM FOR MORE

Sometimes it is important for you to have an ejaculation, but not the kind 
where you "lose your soul," more the kind where you've been cultivating 
your Jing (cultivated sexual energy).  If you've been very successful with 
The Taoist Sexual Technique and every once in a while, (it's different, 
depending on your age, your practice ability, and your maturity), you can 
have an orgasm.  You might have a "wet dream" which will allow you to 
actually do more work and accumulate more energy.  Its almost as though 
you've "condensed in" so much, you can't condense any more, you can't fit  
any more. 

This should not happen on a weekly basis.  Please do not misunderstand me.  
This is a "once in a while" phenomenon that will happen to you almost out 
of your control.  In the old days, "wet dreams" were considered "leaks" 
by many people, but nowadays, a "leak" is actually good because it makes 
room for more condensing, more internal energy development and cultivation, 
but you shouldn't look forward to a leak.  It should just be a "natural 
happening."  The difference between having an orgasm while having sex, and 
having a wet dream, is; say you lose, go down to a -5.  

When you masturbate you go down to a -100, and when you have a "wet dream" 
related to making room for your practice, you don't go to 0, but you 
recuperate much quicker with this kind of orgasm.  This is Nature's way of 
giving you more capacity and space to work.

THE ULTIMATE DISCIPLINE CHALLENGE

If you can control your ejaculations at the time when it's hardest, then 
you are truly disciplined.  You will have discipline everywhere, in every 
situation, because the hardest place in the world to keep it is while 
having sex.  If you don't ejaculate, you could be and will remain Self-
Contained, but if you do ejaculate, you are losing four days before an 
five days of practice and accumulation after the day you "lose it."  

That self-destructive feeling about wanting to have an ejaculation is normal 
in the early stages of developing The Taoist Sexual Technique.  If you have 
read any of the sex books (see suggested book list), it says you can have 
short periods of sex 10 times a day, but if you ejaculate, you won't be able to.  

I am not saying that if you ejaculate it is a waste of time to practice Chi 
Kung, but it will hold you back.  You can still get there, but it's more  
difficult. 

The problem with most people is, they do "the right thing," but they don't 
do "the right thing" long enough, so they don't get all the benefits or the 
results they hope to.  Whether it's related to diet, health, business, 
discipline, whatever it is, people do the same thing all the time.  They 
stop short of getting what they want. 

PORNO HELPS YOUR CHI CIRCULATIONS

I advise going to X-rated movies if you're celibate, for practicing your 
Condensing Breathing, Inside Air, and The Micro Cosmic Orbit, while you're 
watching porno movies.  What that does is energize your sexual energy and 
then you actually have more to circulate.  I do not recommend masturbating, 
without ejaculating for the same reason.

These two things are not the same.  Mantak Chia advises men to practice 
"masturbating" without ejaculating.  I think this is a ridiculous thing to 
tell people to do.  It just doesn't work.  By the time your mind and your 
energy reach your genitals due to manual stimulation, that's too late 
already.  Your energy has dropped too low and is already in your genitals.  

But if your watching a porno movie, and you're doing Condensing Breathing 
and all your other techniques, that's different because it really doesn't 
have anything to do with your genitals at that  
point. 

MORE CONCERNING THE TAOIST SEXUAL TECHNIQUE

I do not intend to stuff my book with philosophy about Taoism and The 
Taoist Sexual Technique.  If you need to find out more about the 
philosophy, the background, the psychology, there are a few good books 
written by Jolan Chang, entitled The Tao of Love and Sex

The Tao of The Loving Couple, however, what is missing from these books 
is the actual technique itself.  That you can learn by adapting your Chi 
Kung practice to love making. 

*********SEXUAL RECUPERATION*********

Another way of being able to recuperate after "losing it" is to have sex the 
next day or the day after and absolutely "not lose it."  You must circulate 
and draw the energy from your partner (woman) and throw it into your 
Micro Cosmic Orbit and not lose it.  You must keep it circulating and quit  
at a high point of your practice and keep doing Condensing Breathing. 

WASH OFF HER JUICES 

It is very important after having sex with a woman, for a man to wash off 
her "loving juices" because your body has developed a sensitivity to that 
and washing will prevent you from having "wet dreams" after being 
successful with The Taoist Sexual Technique.  You have to wash her scent 
off, otherwise, it's almost as if you are continuing to have sex.

Your body knows what's going on and you might have unexpected, unwanted 
ejaculation simply because of not washing your lovers feminine juices off 
you.  So, it's very important to remain clean at all times. 

LIVING IN TROUBLE AND MISERY DAILY

Most people that I meet and see, whether I accept them as clients or not, 
are in trouble and misery, and they don't necessarily have to be depressed.  

Misery and suffering is a human condition according to Buddah.  A few are 
depressed and in trouble, but most, comparing the way they are when they 
are through working with me, to how they were I met them, will admit 
they were in trouble, even though when I first meet them, they denied 
being that way.  Their trouble and misery was not so apparent before.  

Being in trouble is a very common problem, you might say a state of being, 
that most people learn to live with. 

HOW MANY ORGASMS CAN YOU HAVE?

Ejaculating is part of a vicious cycle.  Breaking the cycle can be very  
important to your Chi Kung practice. 

How many ejaculations a man in Chi Kung is allowed to have depends on a 
few factors.  The first factor is his age and physical condition.  The next 
is his constitution.  Next is the season of the year and weather conditions.   
These are very important factors that should not be ignored.

HOW TO CHOOSE THE BEST SEX PARTNERS

For men, the optimum choice would be a women that is much younger then 
him, 10 years at least.  If the man is 25 years old, then he has some 
trouble (jail bait), but we are talking a little older than 25 here.  It is 
best to have a women who has never had children, is considerably younger 
than you, and has not had a hysterectomy.  The only exception to these 
preferences are if the women has been practicing Chi Kung and has 
cultivated her own Jing (cultivated sexual energy).  There is a hormone 
exchange that takes place during sex that could be a very important factor 
to a Chi Kung man if he knew what to do with this added female energy. 

For women, it is not as important to have an age gap, since women do not 
lose energy in the same way men do. 

YOU GET WHO YOU ARE:  NO MORE, NO LESS

Many people are out there searching desperately for "the right person" to 
share their lives with, whether it be girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, 
there's a mad race to find "the right person."  The thing that people don't 
understand is that they aren't going to find "the right person" until they 
"the right person" for themselves.  Now, I'm not suggesting that you have 
to adjust your body or your personality, or to be subservient for "the 
right person," but if you don't have it together, you're going to also keep 
finding people who also don't have it together.  

So step #1 in how to find your mate is to make sure that you are stable and 
you have the important personality skills and spiritual development, so when 
"the right person" does come by, they know it, you know it, and it works. 

I've searched for many years for "the right woman," and in my wild search, 
I have found many of "the wrong ones."  I mean they seemed "right" at the 
time, but the difference between them and my wife now, is that she is 
"right," and I didn't have to work hard to put all the pieces together.   

When you find "the right person," it should be a very "natural" experience.  
You shouldn't have to "work at it," as many people believe.  You shouldn't 
have to make the pieces fit.  If you have to make the pieces fit, you can 
still do it, but you should also understand that it's probably not "the right 
thing" to do, but you can do "the wrong thing" in place of doing "no thing." 

CHOOSING "THE RIGHT MATE"

What is important in creating "the right relationship?"  This question is 
put to me quite frequently.  Loving each other is more important than 
having hot romance.  Hot romance is not important and it's not enough to 
make it through the long haul.  Your mate should be your best friend and 
you must really like each other.  This is completely different than what 
had been going on.  When I first met my wife, we weren't romantically 
inclined.  

We just knew we liked each other and liked spending time, and liked doing 
things, it didn't matter what it was.  We really cared about each other.  
The "love" part of the relationship fell right into place after we already 
knew each other.  Now I'm not a traditional guy but we have a very 
"traditional" relationship. 

OLD MEN WITH YOUNGER WOMEN

Hardly anybody realizes that sex, the act of making love, can be utilized 
for health benefits.  People always think it's funny when they see an old 
man with a very young wife.  Well there are very specific reasons for this.  
In oriental culture, whether it's Chinese, Filipino, Japanese, what have 
you, this is not so uncommon.  In this country, it's almost considered 
obscene when old men and young girls are seen together.  The reaction that 
people have to this seems ridiculous.  What is available to you when you 
have sex or make love, is the opportunity to "borrow" energy from your 
partner and accumulate it in very specific areas of your body.  Not the 
ones you already know about.  I'm referring to if you have an injury, you 
can use the sex act to heal your injury.  You can use the Jing you can 
cultivate while having sex, not after necessarily, but while doing it.  

You can radiate into these specific areas to reduce pain, improve range of 
motion and mobility, and put more life in areas that were deficient prior 
to this practice. 

WOMEN DON'T NEED YOUNG BOYS

Women's cultivated sexual energy is much different and functions 
differently then men's sexual energy, obviously in a few ways.  The 
difference for a man is that when a man practices Chi Kung and has an 
orgasm, he actually "loses" his energy.  His energy leaves his body in the 
sperm.  The electrical-chemical energy that makes up the sperm actually 
leaves the body. 

SPERM CONTAINS TOXINS (WOMEN HAVE BEEN MAD AT ME FOR YEARS ABOUT THIS...)

Some people believe that when a man ejaculates after a long period of 
time, it is actually healthy.  I believe it is also healthy because the man 
gets a chance to discharge certain toxins, however, this is not generally 
known.  In women, their sexual energy does not actually leave the body, it 
just circulates or moves around. 

WOMEN CAN STILL HAVE ORGASMS

I don't like referring to the movement of women's as "scattering," because 
in Tantric Yoga, women are not allowed to have orgasms.  The same 
restrictions stand for men also.  In "The Taoist Sexual Technique," women 
are actually encouraged to have orgasms.  

It's sort of like tapping into the Mother Earth's energy and circulating it.
If men know how to tap into or draw off a woman's sexual energy, this can 
be done without any disturbance or reduction to her energy levels or sources.  

This is a very exciting part of the practice.  Try it, you'll like it. 

FOR WOMEN ONLY: ABOUT YOUR PERIOD

If you are having your period, you should not put your mind at Tan Tien.  
Rather, you should keep your mind at your solar plexus instead (the tip of 
your xyphoid process) of Point #2.  This is because her body is discharging 
"dead blood" and energy and you won't want to re-absorb any of that.  Fresh 
or good energy that drops down to her vagina will have a tendency to leave 
her body.  You don't want that to happen.  Raising your mind to the Xyphoid  
process will help. 

CHI KUNG BEFORE SEX

Remember, before being able to perform "The Taoist Sexual Technique" 
smoothly, you must become proficient at practicing Chi Kung.  This is a 
different application of the same techniques you have already learned, 
whether it be The Micro Cosmic Orbit, The Macro Cosmic Orbit, or Inside  

CHI KUNG DURING SEX

You are going to be practicing these techniques while you're having sex, 
embracing or touching each other.  You don't really need to make sexual 
contact to practice "Dual Cultivation."  As a matter of fact, depending on 
your level of practice, sometimes you don't even have to be close to the 
the other person,  You can practice this from a distance.  I will expand on  
this later.  This is similar to "distance power sex."

SEX WON'T KILL YOU, BUT?

Many men have asked me, "Is it harmful to my internal practice and how 
harmful to ejaculate?"  The answer to this question tends to differ from 
person to person.   Condensing/squeezing and circulating into The Micro 
Cosmic Orbit will help prevent an excessive energy loss.  The loss can be 
minimized.  It's similar to using the amount of water it takes to prime a 
pump in relationship to actually "pumping" water.  Trying to do The Micro 
Cosmic Orbit while ejaculating will only produce nominal savings and is 
not advised.  

It is best to practice seminal fluid retention as often as possible or 
as much as your relationship will allow. 

*****CHI KUNG AFTER SEX*****

Pick a sitting posture and begin condensing.  It doesn't matter which 
sitting position you use.  Condense into Tan Tien, as small and as tight as 
you possibly can.  In the same breath, shrink again and again and again up 
to 6-7 times in one single inhale.  Next, relax and let your mind expand out 
into the Universe.  Remember, when doing "Condensing Breathing," only the 
inhale is important.  After shrinking considerably, begin to "Fold Your 
Jing" so it overlaps itself.  Have each part of the same inhale and your 
"Condensing" shrink, overlap and accelerate.  

Next, after considerable "Condensing" has been done, begin to incorporate 
your arms into the program (Macro Cosmic Orbit, Mother Meditation, etc.).  

Suck into your palms, as if you are sucking in fine silk through your palms.  
The next step is to link your arms, sucking with your "Mother Meditation," 
into your Tan Tien while sucking in from one consistent, linked condensing 
practice.   

After you have ejaculated, there is more space to "Condense" into. 

DUAL CULTIVATION EQUALS BETTER SEX

To practice "Dual Cultivation" between a couple, the man must know what 
to do.  It is not imperative that the woman know how to practice Chi Kung, 
but it would enhance your lovemaking if you both knew how to do the basic 
"Chi Circulations."  The woman can be coached in a very basic way if the 
man really knows how to practice The Micro Cosmic Orbit, Condensing 
Breathing, Inside Air, and a handful of other techniques.  For the woman, 
all she really needs to do is inhale and exhale on command, and follow the 
instructions of her lover.  

This practice cannot be done if the only partner that knows the technique 
is the woman.

It will be impossible for him to perform without certain important workable 
techniques.  If you want your man to be able to practice these techniques, 
give him my book or send him to my web site. "Dual Cultivation" is a very 
high level energy practice.  

Not high level as if "spiritual," but high level like it requires a good 
level of technical proficiency. 

Not only can a man get more satisfication without ejaculation, but the 
woman can have multiple orgasms more easily while practicing The Taoist 
Sexual Technique.  The practice of Dual Cultivation is exciting, fun, and 
very fulfilling if done correctly. 

THE BEST KEPT SECRET: THE GRAND FINALE

This has been reserved for the end of the sex chapter.  Now that you have 
"mastered" the ability to have sex without ejaculating, and it has become 
second nature for you, I must tell you there does exist a technique with 
which you can ejaculate and at the same time lose a large percentage of 
your cultivated energy.  I call this "Separating Heaven and Earth's 
Essence." 

With this particular kind of ejaculation, you can shoot the very thin 
watery (Heaven) substance part of your sperm up your spine while you 
excrete the thick (Earth) substance out.  However, you only excrete half to 
three quarters of your Earth's substance out, not all of it. 

This is getting very specific and subtle.  Careful practicing is necessary 
to perfect this part of your technique.  In order to perform this, you really 
have to have control of your cultivated sexual energy (Jing).  This is not 
easy, but you already know this.  Separating Heaven and Earth's Essence is 
possibly the most difficult part of The Taoist Sexual Technique. 

To the best of my knowledge, this process has never been explained in any 
of the books I've seen. 

To recuperate from this kind of ejaculation is very easy.  You have to 
continue to practice your Micro-Cosmic Orbit after you have ejaculated 
Earth's essence only.  Again, make sure you do not ejaculate Heaven and 
Earth together.  Heaven's essence goes up the spine, Earth's essence drop's 
out.  This is where the toxins that I mentioned earlier, are in Earth's 
essence.  I will include more about this in my next book or in my Taoist 
Sexual Technique Workshop.

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